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Many people are still doubtful and do not believe in long distance relationships. Have you ever been in an online romance with someone from another country that people insult or talk you out of? These people would say that they have your best interest at heart and do not want you to get hurt bla bla. I'd like to say to all the conservative people who disbelieve in the success of long distance relationships to keep their opinions and stop discouraging your loved ones from pursuing a long distance relationship.
Times have changed and now anything is possible with the ease of telecommunication and transport. Someone from one country can end up being married to someone from another country. I'd like to share my thoughts and experiences about the 4 good things that you can experience in a long distance relationship.
1. Physical appearance is not important to make a good first impression
If you're like me, shy and reluctant to show yourself in your first conversation, don't worry. Normally people in long distance relationships do not 'see' each other until well into the relationship. This gives both of you time to get to know each other's qualities and personality from the inside out. Though it's not good, people normally find it easier to reveal their true selves online in a relationship. Perhaps it's the sense of initial anonymity that makes you quickly comfortable with someone else. This can be a good thing as the other can see your true self and appreciate your sincerity.
2. Distance makes the heart grow fonder
Not being able to see each other or be in each other's company will make you yearn to be close to that other person more. This strengthens the bond between the both of you and appreciate your relationship at a greater level. People who are together and near each other tend to take for granted of the ease of the relationship. I'm not saying dating from someone in the same neighborhood is not good, it's being apart and overcoming the distance that makes a relationship stronger and makes one more appreciative.
3. Learning to accept differences in culture and way of life
Some people may have a skewed perspective about another person's life of a different culture. Being in a long distance relationship with a person from a different country forces you to understand and respect the other's culture and way of life. I have been given the opportunity to experience this and it is knowledge and being able to adapt that make me cherish the opportunity so much until today. Accepting the differences has somehow opened my eyes and made me appreciate and discard some of my beliefs to make me a better person.
4. Being together at last is the greatest feeling in the world
After spending a lot of time getting to know each other in a long distance relationship, when you finally get to meet, it is something overwhelming and the most positive thing anyone can experience. Knowing that both of you have overcome the odds, blasting though every obstacle, and not letting time and distance daunt you to meet, you will realize that you can achieve anything. I say that because almost everyone believes that it is next to impossible to meet someone so far away because it is too expensive or when you meet, you have to ask yourself, "What next?" Don't worry about it.
If you truly believe in your long distance romance, nothing in the world can stop you from being together. Remember the good things that can come from a long distance relationship. The negative things can be overcome easily if both of you are sincere and willing to sacrifice to make your relationship work. My husband and I are proof of a successful long distance online romance. I hope you like this article and will share your thoughts with us!
I remember musing with a young man if things would be different if we lived in the same country. Probably. We've been married over 20 years now and perhaps wouldn't have felt such a desperate desire to be together if we had time to think about it and 'take it slowly'. We're an exclusive club, us international marriages, and how could anyone who doesn't belong truly understand? PS Great excuse to travel too... our kids are seasoned international flyers! What a privilege we've given them in embracing two cultures as their own.
Yes I agree with you, congrats on the successful relationship you have! And I'm sure you and your whole family benefit a lot from having two cultural backgrounds. Your kids will probably be more open minded about a lot of things that other children wouldn't be. And also congratulations for staying so strong together for so many years! I hope my husband and I can have a lasting and happy marriage for a long time too! Thanks for your insight Heather!
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