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How Could My Husband Cheat If He Really Loves Me?
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Your husband says that he loves you. You've always believed him until now. Now that you've discovered that he's been cheating on you you're beginning to doubt all the words of love he's ever said to you. You want to know: "How could my husband cheat if he really loves me?" It just doesn't seem to work out that he could do this if he really did have an ounce of love for you. Didn't he think it would hurt you if you ever found out? Didn't he know you would be devastated by the news? Didn't he realize the impact this could have on your marriage? How could he do this to you?

But that's the problem with cheating and the average man. It's not about how much he loves you. It's not about not wanting to hurt you. It's about him believing that he'd never get caught. Some men cheat and then instantly regret the action. Some men convince themselves that as long as no one knows there's no harm; no foul. Some men don't view cheating as a big deal at all. For these men it's something completely separate from the love they feel for you. It's outside the scope of their marriages and has nothing to do with you.

But, the bottom line is this: it's how YOU feel about his cheating that matters once the word's gotten out. You are the one who will be living through the fallout and only you can decide if you're willing to work through this tough time in your marriage or if you're going to throw in the towel. But you should make your decision knowing that it's probably he means what he says when he tells you he loves you. You need to know this now so you don't have to go through the process of trying to get your ex back if you figure it out later.

That doesn’t mean you should forgive your husband or that you should forgive your husband blindly. However, if you do decide to give your marriage a second chance after your husband has broken your heart by cheating you need to set a few ground rules like these.

  • Define cheating in no uncertain terms so that your husband can't claim that what he's doing isn't cheating. Let him know what it is to you.
  • Let your husband know that cheating in the future will not be tolerated in your marriage.
  • Make him tell you WHY he cheated. Sometimes it's just an act of opportunity but other times there is an underlying problem that needs to be solved for the sake of your marriage. You need to know if that's the case.
  • Set aside one date night each week for the two of you. This time needs to be sacrosanct time you spend together for the future of your marriage.

Even after cheating has dealt a crushing blow it's still possible to save your marriage and make your relationship work. You just need a little help sometimes to guide you through the process.


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