If you are sitting home alone lamenting the fact that you are not in a relationship, there is no more perfect time to do a self love check-up. Do you love yourself? Do you like who you are? If not, then how can you expect anyone else to? How can someone fall in love with you if you don't even like yourself? Take a self-inventory and take some time to "work on yourself". There are several things you can do on your self inventory.

First, think of your favorite activities. If your list is short, or involves things that mostly involve staying at home or things you can do in front of the television, then you need to "get a life". So go get one. Get out there and try some things that you have always wanted to do. You may not like them all, but you may hit on something really fun and interesting. Then you'll ask yourself why you never tried it before now. One of the bonuses to trying new activities is that you get to meet new people. Somewhere in your new web of friends, you may meet that special someone, and now you'll have something in common that you like to spend time doing.

Next, be the best you that you can be. Be the person you want to be. Think about this carefully. Don't try to become someone that someone else wants you to be (like your parents, or your boyfriend, etc.). Who do you want to be? There are self help books available that can help you on your journey to the new you. You don't have to spend a lot of money on these items when they are all available in the library or online. Once you have figured out who you want to be, and are on your way to being that person, you will start really loving yourself.

Then, take inventory of your personal appearance. Most people have things about their body that they are not happy about. Ask yourself if there is something you can do about it. For example, can you lose some weight, get a better haircut, get some makeup advice from a professional, etc. If you can do something about it, then do it! If you can't do something about it, then find a way to accept it for part of who you are.

Once you are on your way to loving yourself, then you will be ready to have a man to love you.

Find that special love that you long for, but start by finding love within yourself. That love you long for should start with you. Keep loving yourself for who you are, and you'll find someone that you can love the same way. If you want him to love you for who you are, be sure that you are being true to yourself, and remember to love him for who his is as well. Don't try to change him or make him into someone else. Love him for who he is, and he will find you irresistible.