This myth causes so much misery, it’s sad. Just like my relationship coach says, “desiring a man's total devotion - attraction and love are part of the recipe, trying to bake a relationship cake without all the ingredients is like trying to bake a chocolate cake with sugar, eggs and chocolate but without flour”.

Do you see the mistake? You are missing the most crucial ingredient, and that means your relationship will end up in a total disaster. Sorry, but it’s true.

Imagine meeting the guy of your dreams. You are super excited about your first date with him. He picks you up and takes you to a romantic Persian restaurant; he pays. As you and he converse about different things, he looks into your eyes and says, “this evening has been wonderful”. You start blushing and say to him, “this night has been magical as well. It’s been fun”.

Of course he asks you on a second date, and eventually he asks you to be his girl. You finally have a boyfriend. Weeks and months pass and you are still dating him. On the side of things, you are living with him and both of you hardly see each other. When you do see each other nothing ever happens but sex. After sex, both of you tell each other “I love you” and roll over and sleep.

My question to you is this… is this a healthy relationship? Of course it’s not a healthy one. Seem like sex is the ultimate job stress reliever and there is no communication or caring in the relationship anymore. More than likely, there will more be more arguments than agreements, and then sooner or later the relationship will be dull and boring. Either one of you will uplift and encourage the other to do better, be better and stay positive. Do you see the crash coming?

Love is so much more than being into someone and casual sex. Love is you, love is him. Love is the spiritual side of you and him connecting into a magnificent state of emotion creating positivity, nurturing, and respect.

Too many of us still believe that love is all you need, and this way of thinking is not enabling us to live a life not knowing what true love is. In order to love, you need to know that love is all needs of positive energy toward someone. The creativity of your energy is what sets you apart. Learn to love on a more spiritual level and he will move the relationship forward easily.