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Relationships can be very complicated and are a lot of work. Some couples have more trouble than others. Some times they just get to a point where they just don’t listen to one another. How do you know when a relationship should end? Well this can be a very difficult decision to make. You think about the time invested, feelings and maybe some other personal or material things invested in the relationship as well. If there are children involved this makes it even more complicated.
No one wants to be unhappy. We all have unhappy times in our lives, but we bounce back and these unhappy times may make you stronger. It’s not fair to continue to make someone miserable because you don’t know how to express that you have either lost interest, or you are not sure what you want in life at that point.
The person you have chosen to be with should know how you are feeling and what may be going on in your head or in your life. This person should always bring you joy, put a smile on your face when you see them, hear their voice or even just think about them. This is the one person in the world who no matter what will be there to help you feel better when you are down.
Love has different phases; there is the infatuation phase, comfort phase, questioning phase, and the resentment phase. Well this has been my experience not everyone will go through these but for the most part this is just a simple analysis by me.
The infatuation phase is pretty much where you can’t stand to be away from each other. The comfort phase is where you know they are with you and you don’t have to have constant contact. The questioning phase is where some thing may have happen or been said to make you question their true feelings for you. The resentment phase is the last stage you may go through when each of you have done and said things out of anger and spite. When you reach this phase in a relationship it is time to communicate your feeling to each other. Sometimes this works and sometimes it does not and can make things worse.
When you reach this phase to me there may be very little you can do to fix the relationship. Once you open your mouth and hateful words come out there may be very little you can do to fix the relationship. Once you open your mouth and hateful words come out there is nothing you can do or say to change how it makes the other person feel. When you get to the point of saying hurtful things or maybe even physical actions that are harmful it is best to let go and move on.
It is possible to get professional help as well but sometimes it may be too late. You only do more damage to each other by staying together because of one reason or another. But letting go of someone you love but may not like at the time is not an easy thing to do. It is never easy when you decide to end a relationship, and one will blame the other, but this solves nothing.
Each person should own up to what they may have done wrong and learn form the mistakes they made so that you don’t make the same mistakes with another person. I don’t think you should think at first you should think you can be friends with this person, maybe later when wounds have healed it may be possible, but that would be up to you and the other person.
None the less ending a relationship can be very difficult, but you can and will recover form the hurt and loss and hopefully you will learn what not to do in your next relationship. Also how you will not tolerate being treated by another person. It’s just one of life’s lessons that some individuals go through more then others. No matter what one day there is or will be someone who loves and accepts you for who you are and treats you with the respect you deserve. You just have to make sure you return the love and respect as well.
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