Question:

I feel so distant from my husband and the connection that we had seems to have died down. What can I do to get him to love me again and re-establish that connection that we once had?

Answer:

Don't worry if you find yourself in this situation because there's always hope. You might feel like you're at the end of the rope with your relationship and it can be quite difficult to keep going if you feel like hit a dead end,, but if you approach things with the right attitude you can restore the love and connection you once had with your husband.

Why You're Not Alone

Its natural to feel isolated and alone in a relationship where you feel like you're not connecting. However, it might surprise you to know that your husband is probably feeling the same way you are right now.

So what should you do now? What I suggest is that you focus on yourself and surround yourself with positivity so that you can channel that positive energy towards your husband. Go out for lunch with friends or see a movie, but do things that you like and that bring you happiness so that when you go to interact with your husband at night you're in a better mood.

It's no doubt that you and your husband are probably going through the same thing emotionally right now and knowing that and understanding how to deal with it is the first step to overcoming your issues.

What You Need to Watch Out For

It's important to know and understand the things you should do, but I feel there's much more value in understanding the things you shouldn't do. Too often our good intentions can have disasterous consequences, so before you go down the wrong road that you think is right, allow me to point out some things you shouln't do while trying to reconnect with your husband.

Don't overcompensate. As a woman, its natural to want to be a healer and a peacemaker especially where relationships are concerned, and that's OK, but don't overdo it. By nature men are not good communicators when it comes to expressing their emotions and so they usually shut down instead of opening up. Rather than pressing your man about what's wrong and trying to pry information out of him every time you talk, try and make him feel relaxed and comfortable first..

Don't pull away from him. As much as you want to protect yourself from conflict or pain in a relationship, the worst thing you can do is pull away and put up walls around yourself.

As I said before, your husband is most likely experiencing the same things you are and so you've actually got more common ground than you think in that you both feel a disconnect in your marriage and want to make it better but don't know how or where to start.

What you need to do here is accept the reality of your situation. It's Ok to be stuck in a rut. It happens to everyone at some point in their life. But if you truly want to break down the walls between you and your husband, the first place to start is to be honest with yourself and what you want.

Digging deeper with your man.I know it's probably difficult to see, but you and your husband aren't all that different. Men want to feel loved, valued and appreciated; just like you do. So if he's started to pull away from you, maybe its because he's not feeling the same value and appreciation from you that he did in the past.

Your Next Step

The next step you need to take if you want to get your husband to love you again is action. As I mentioned before, you and your husband aren't really that far apart even though it feels like it right now.

If you really want to get your husband to fall in love with you again, put him first. By not overcompensating or pulling away from him, your man will be able to see that you value him which will make him feel important and loved.

Now that you've read and understand how to get your husband to love you again, its time for you to take action and get your relationship back on track and rekindle your love for eachother.