You are the victim of infidelity, you feel like an emotional wreck, and you probably are, but you need to learn how to get your emotions under control, and handle them in a healthy way.

You need to learn how to cope with what you are going through, and will then you will be more capable of handling your emotions. Learning about infidelity in your marriage, can cause your emotions to run rampant, it is like having to deal with emotional abuse.

There are several ways that you can get your emotions under control, and get your head cleared, so that you will be able to think better, and understand what has really happened, and why. Here are a few tips that will help you handle all of your emotions.

BREATHE: Taking a few deep breaths is always a good way to relax. You breath deep when you are having a baby, and are in labor. This helps to relax you. You take deep breaths when doing yoga, as well as other exercises, because it helps you to relax. So it only makes sense, to sit back, and take a few relaxing breaths. You will want to take slow deep breaths, breathing in through your nose and slowly exhaling out through your mouth. If this does not get you completely relaxed, so that you have greater control of your emotions, then you should at least be a lot less stressed, which will help you to better handle the emotions.

BE GOOD TO YOURSELF: To help relieve some of your emotions, you need to start thinking about yourself. You should go out to a movie, go with a friend if you would like some company. Treat yourself to a manicure, or a pedicure, these can make you feel really good, and will relax you, and will help you forget about your emotions. They may not totally disappear, but if you can reduce them a little, it will help you get better control over them. You don't want to go around constantly in a negative state, because of your situation, and your emotions, it is unhealthy for you. Just go out and do something that you really enjoy, and have fun, relax.

GO OUTSIDE: You should not hide like a hermit in your home, or at work during this time in your life. You are just going through a rough period right now. You are in an emotional turmoil, and simply need to take control of your thoughts. Going outside and walking around, going to the park, going shopping, or even going to the zoo can take your mind off of things for a while. Getting some fresh air, can be a great boost to your mental and physical well being. So stop whatever you are doing, I'm sure that it can wait, go outside, and get some nice fresh air in your lungs.

GET SOME EXERCISE: Exercise is great, it releases endorphins into your bloodstream, which helps to give you a feeling of relaxation. Don't jump into doing a lot of strenuous exercise at once, if you are not accustomed to exercising, you need to ease into it. To reduce your stress, and gain control over your emotional state, you are going to have to relax and this is a great way of doing that. Not only will it help you to relax, but it is great for both your heart and your lungs, which are both greatly affected by stress. Once you start healing yourself by gaining control over your emotions, you will be better able to start the healing process of your marriage.

Hopefully this will help you in being able to handle your emotions, and get control of them. Once you have control over your emotions, you will be able to think more clearly.

You need to realize, that what you are feeling right now, will not last forever, it will get better, much better. You will eventually be able to see and understand what has happened, and if you and your spouse want to repair your marriage and relationship, you will be in a much better and stronger state of mind to do that. The main thing to start with is handling your emotions.