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Avoid The Biggest Mistake When Trying To Fix Your Marriage - Complaining About It!
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There is lots of advice out there on how to save a marriage. It can be complicated and hard work. But the best advice when trying to fix a marriage is pretty simple (note, I said simple, not easy!) And that advice is that if you want to fix your marriage, the first step is to stop complaining about it!

First and foremost - this is the most important thing. Stop complaing about your marriage sproblems and your spouse. Stop complaining to your friends, coworkers, parents, children and, of course, your spouse.

Why is this so important? Because in order to fix a marriage you need to change the energy in your marriage. Constantly complaining about your spouse and what is wrong with your marriage is a mistake.Why this is very important is because if you just focus on your problems and everything that is wrong with your marriage recovering your relationship will seem hopeless. Why would anyone want to save a marriage that is full of negativity and bad feelings?

In order to avoid this problem you need to focus on the things that are right between you and your spouse. Every relationship has some good things going for it. Sure, maybe your spouse has some habits that drive you crazy but focus on the things they do that are good. For example, are they good parents? Are they thoughtful when it comes to dividing up household chores?

Once you have thought about some things that you appreciate about your spouse, tell them! This may be a crucial point because part of changing the tone of your marriage is about focusing on the behavior you do want and appreciate from your spouse, not the behavior you don't.What you need to do then is make the commitment to stop nagging about small details. Nagging and complaining drain a marriage. No one likes to be around people who like to compalin and nag, and the truth is that complaining and nagging don't make you feel any better yourself, anyway.

And finally, think about having some fun together. This issue happens when you set aside time specifically for the two of you to go out on a date and have fun. Set ground rules that you cannot spend your time talking about your problems, finances, children or other responsibilities. Try and reconnect just the two of you and remember why you fell in love on the first place. Again, this is all about trying to change the energy in your marriage. People will be more motivated to fix a marriage if they perceive it to be full of fun and love and appreciation, and not complaining and nagging. I was married over 20 years and I can tell you that focusing on the energy in my marriage was the best unhappy marriage advice I ever received.


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bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

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  about 6 years ago

I was having a boyfriend. We were known for long time only through phone. Suddenly through some event we met together and we promised we will be together for ever. Both of us are married and not satisfied with the present spouse. But because of some misunderstanding I quarreled with him and humiliated him in front of his friends. After that I realized my mistake and apologized with him like anything. He told me he will try to forget everything. After that we met once and he promised me everything happened because of misunderstanding and now we will together for ever.But after that we never met each other. when we plan to meet some hindrance will happen then it will stop. Also no proper communication. But for me he is my everything. He is the only one who gave such a good satisfaction in my life. I wanted him. I wanted him to meet me, to have sex with me, love me everything. He is very good.and l know He was made for me. But some hindrance keep keeping us apart. i tried to get close to him but nothing was working out until one day i heard about a spell caster called prophetharry@ymail. com, i decide to try his love spell and definitely it worked out perfectly for me, it never took time for the spell to start working, after some few days this guy i am loving came to me and wanted us to start dating, we are in love now, our lover is so tight that nothing can brings us apart, this love spell is wonderful shadonna

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  about 6 years ago
Joyvbest  

WAO MY FAMILY IS BACK AGAIN HI AM JULIO DA Sanchez’s, Am from Madrid Spain . with this great tears of joy and happiness in my heart today I want to give an unlimited thanks to this man Called DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo com and also share my testimonies with this great man on how I was able to get my husband and my kids back to my arms once again after two years and after I thought all hope was lost in getting back my family .well and happy today I have my family back and I want to say to the whole world what would I have done if not for DR ABULU that I saw a testimony share on the internet by miss MICHELL FROM AUSTRALIA and I also contacted this man for help and he also did my own for me and to day am back with my husband |ALONSO DA SANCHEZ,S and my kids are happy with us . so I want to am very happy today and I want to say to everyone on this site that I will always remain thankful to this man DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo com for all this he has done for me, thanks to you once again DR for am grateful to you and will always be

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  about 6 years ago

Someone might even want to take a 3x5 card and write down some of those good things and look at the list a few times a day. Sometimes those little reminders can help us to refocus on the good things or to refocus on solutions instead of on problems.

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  about 7 years ago
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