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Do You Want To Save Your Marriage And Prevent A Divorce?
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Do you want to save your marriage and prevent a divorce?

Does your husband want to leave you?

If your marriage husband wants to leave your marriage this is because he thinks that you are no-longer meeting his expectations. It does not matter whether you believe that this is wrong or right. The fact is that this is what he believes and if you want to keep him you need to change his mind and show him how valuable you are. Even if your husband does not want to work at saving your marriage you can do it by yourself. The first thing to do is to admit that you share some of the blame for the current situation. There is something about your relationship that your husband does not like, or thinks he does not like, if he is considering leaving it. Even if it is not your fault, take up the challenge to change the situation.

How to keep your husband and stop a divorce. To keep your marriage husband you must make sure that he sees and feels how valuable you are to him. The more he believes that you meet his expectations the greater value he will put on you. It does not matter how hard you work, how much money you earn, how well you look after the children, how well you cook, or how beautifully you clean the house if these things are not valuable to your husband. Often couples fall in love and get married. They later find that they have little in common and very different values. This causes fights and unhappiness. Unless you can stop and understand what each others values are and why you have them, the marriage will not work as you are not meeting each others expectations. For example, a young man of 25 years might be very attracted to a fun-loving, career woman of the same age. He may love it that she earns as much as him, can party has hard as him and is completely independent. However, if this man grew up in a home where his father was the main breadwinner and his mother took care of his father, the children and the home, problems may arise when his wife refuses to give up her career, or put her husband’s needs ahead of her own. Fundamentally, the husband’s expectations won't be met and he will look elsewhere. The husband may well find someone far less successful than his wife who meets his emotional expectations. To stop separation or divorce from your husband and get rid of emotional distance between you, you must become emotionally valuable to your husband.

Your husband won’t leave something valuable and if he does he will notice the loss and return Even if you can’t stop your husband from leaving you, if you have made yourself emotionally valuable to him, he will soon miss you and return. It is very hard to replace something valuable and no-one else will be able to take your place.

What makes a wife valuable? To be a valuable wife you must know your husband well and love and accept him despite his faults. You must help him be the best person he can, without putting unreasonable expectations on him. You must earn his respect by insisting on being treated well yourself and having some requirements which are non-negotiable. You should have values and standards and there must be consequences for your husband if he does not live up to your expectations. You won't be valuable to your husband if you allow him to do whatever he wants to do. In fact, deep down he may see this as a lack of care on your part. Balanced against this, however, you must understand what makes your husband happy and what he thinks is normal. Learn all you can about his childhood as his early years shaped his current values. It is essential that you make yourself available to your husband as a companion and sexual partner. He must see you as someone he can have fun with and someone who will satisfy his sexual needs. All men have sexual needs and if you do not satisfy them he will go elsewhere.

Your husband needs to perceive you as offering at least as much as your competition for you to be valuable to him. You will not be successful if you try to convince your husband to stay in a bad relationship but you will be successful if you leave him remembering that you were as good, or better, than what he is going to.

Tips To Apply Now To Save Your Marriage Husband

You need to change the way you deal with and interact with your husband so that he changes the way that he sees you, treats you and thinks about you. For example:

1. If you have made yourself unavailable to have fun with your husband surprise him and arrange an outing;

2. If you constantly say ‘no’ to sex suggest going to bed early one night, or if this is too great a leap, offer him something simple like a foot massage and see where it leads;

3. Compliment your husband on something he has done like the gardening;

4. Thank your husband for something he has done that helps you;

5. Ask your husband about his day when he gets home and really listen to the answer;

6. Say something good about your husband when you are both with friends. You will be amazed at how his head swells;

7. Look at your husband when you are talking to him and hold his gaze. This will create intimacy;

8. Touch your husband lightly to create a connection when you speak and when in company rest your hand on his arm to show possession. This will immediately create a physical connection between you that he does not have with others; and

9. If you have put up with bad behaviour and disrespect for a long time shock him and have a blazing row. Tell him that you will not accept his behaviour and demand his respect.

You need to take action to make yourself someone of value who your husband wants to have a life with.

For more great tips on how to save your marriage and stop a divorce you should read the How To Save My Marriage Guide. It will give you some great practical advice.

Also have a look at our site about saving your marriage.


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  about 6 years ago
mark36  

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  about 6 years ago
mark36  

My name is Mark, from USA. I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit, I meant a man who’s name is DR Moko he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the woman i had wanted to marry left me 3weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3 years. I really loved her, but her mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 4 days when i returned to Canada, my Girlfriend called me by herself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and she got a new job interview, so we get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my girlfriend name. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my wife also got the new job and our lives became much better, You can contact him on this email: Mokospellcaster@gmail. com

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  about 6 years ago
JOHNSON5  

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  about 6 years ago
JOHNSON5  

I am johnson, i never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos h ave tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing and she told me she will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and my wife got pregnant a month later..we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid..This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him..he has helped many friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him..This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster have ever experienced in life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out..you can reach him here: ophanprayertemple@yahoo. com

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  about 6 years ago
moreen  

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  about 6 years ago
dbby  

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  about 6 years ago
linda19  

My name is Kate i want to share my testimonies to people in this forum When I married my husband I was already pregnant and so I didn't have a job. He had a really good job though so I was able to stay home and take care of our son when it was born. When we had our second child we moved to a bigger house, but then strange things started to happen. Things would fly off the walls and doors would slam at night. Our oldest son talked about seeing figures and hearing voices. We consulted a medium and they said the house was haunted. After living there about a year more with only minor occurrences we moved out. That was when the bad luck started to happen. Everything started to fail, with my husband's job, our money and our luck in general. I went back to the same medium and they told me that a spirit had followed me and placed a curse upon me for disturbing it and not being respectful in the previous house. He tried to remove it but was unable. The misfortune kept going on and getting more severe as I tried to search out someone to break the curse. But when I found Dr Shiva at HINDU spell he finally did it. Things started turning around almost immediately after he cast the spell and have been great from there my husband is back to me and also find a good job! This was really a miracle for us, thank you DR Shiva at HINDU SPELL TEMPLE you are the best from the bottom of my heart!CONTACT HINDU TEMPLE VIA THIS EMAIL: hinduspelltemple@yahoo .com ...CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS hinduspelltemple@yahoo. com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS Posted by. MISS KATE MOORE

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  about 6 years ago
jane041  

I just to share the good news of how I got my husband back loving me more than before . My name is Flora and I'm from Australia , I got married to my husband 6 years ago , we have a love child , I and my husband began facing challenges and he started telling me words that hurts so bad . We eventually broke up 2 years ago , but I couldn't cope with out him because I love him so much , so a friend introduced me to Solution Spell Temple ( solutionspelltemple@gmail. com ) she told me she got her husband back with the help of the Solution Spell Temple , just in 2 days after they cast a spell for me , my husband began to call me and was begging for him to come back to me . Months since he came back now he has been so loving and respectful to me more than ever before . All thanks to solutionspelltemple@gmail. com . Contact them with that email and get you relationship / marital solution .

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  about 6 years ago
Becky5  

I am full of happiness as I smile and write this testimony . I am Beck James , I and my husband was having issues 4 years back and it leads to serious quarrel and fight even before our child we'll fight all night till we separated , but I was so in love with him so I seek for how to get him back in my life and a friend told me about Solution Spell Temple ( solutionspelltemple@gmail. com ) who helped her get he ex back so I contacted and narrated all my problems to him in email and he responded so fast to me and he told me that my husband will return to me and beg me for love forever together in 2 days after he has cast the spell , really exactly 2 days my husband began to call me and begged me for forgiveness . Now we are together and he loves and shows care,concern and appreciates me like never before . Thanks to Solution Spell Temple . Contact him for your solution ( solutionspelltemple@gmail. com )

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  about 6 years ago
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