Does Woman Empowerment Lead To An Unhappy Marriage?
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Does Woman Empowerment Lead to An Unhappy Marriage?

In the Western world many women are blinded by the equality syndrome, and we hear stories about couples "being equal" in almost everything. Except when it's to the woman's benefit, then it's "empowerment". "I did this yesterday, so it's YOUR turn today!” And this of course is a new reason for arguments in marriages and relationships, created by the society we live in. Maybe this is one of the reasons why divorce rates have sky-rocketed the last couple of generations?

And imagine how "equality" can affect how you think of your partner; who is not doing "enough" to balance your opinion about it! The feminists have had their way since the ‘60’s and ‘70’s and our society today – and I’m referring to the Western world - have focus on “women’s rights” pretty much still as an ongoing topic. And I am absolutely FOR equality when it comes to payment for the same job. And I am FOR equality in making your marriage a success. But it is wrong to give a job to a woman just because she’s female – and not because she’s the best qualified.

This is just one example that society have come to accept as politically correct, because politicians have seen the benefits for their own good in implementing such nonsense. And the media is as usual applauding and supporting it to make it legitimate for the public. How many of today’s younger generation are conscious about the fact that we come into this world as either a boy or a girl, and then by nature we are created different? It looks like it's a matter of trying to erase that difference - the earlier - the better. Boys are given "girls-toys" and girls should play with cars and guns, in order to fulfill the mission.

I know that those so called "in the know or experts" disagree with most what I express, because it's not politically correct in our society to bring this subject up. It's just something we don't disagree with, that "there is no difference" to be a man or a woman today. Maybe that's why we also have "equal sex marriages"? There is no difference.

But let's look at the one still trying to cope with "the other sex" in a relationship a bit further. If you are like the girl in this story, I bet you are heading for trouble regardless who your partner will ever be: "DEAR ABBY: I'm thinking about marrying my longtime boyfriend, but I'm hesitant because he wants me to change my last name.”. More of the story on Yahoo.

So is there really a surprise that we have new and serious problems in marriage today? Here we have a couple who have come so far in their relationship that they have decided to get married! Fortunately for both of them, an important issue comes up before they tie the knot. So now they might put it off because he is “the old school” and wants her to change her name. She is so much "empowered" that she doesn't want to. I believe we are at the center of one of the main problems for many couples in an unhappy marriage today; the fact that "women empowerment" gets in the way for a healthy marriage.

Yes I know that some men have not adapted to the changes of time, and still want to live the life that our forefathers lived 100 years ago, but with the added benefits of living in the year 2014. I obviously don’t agree with that behavior. But I cannot help to wonder how much space there is for love, understanding and friendship in a marriage, when you all the time are making sure that the “equality balance” is in check? In most friendships there are things we don’t like, but we often downgrade those and concentrate more on the things we like, and with our spouse it is no different. But if it’s going to be a battle of sexes already from the beginning, I can see we are going to see the divorce rates continue to climb.

(From US: The rates are 53% of 1st marriage, 60% of 2nd marriage and 73 % of 3rd marriage that end in divorce) With this article I am not saying that women are by themselves responsible for all the problems an unhappy marriage consist of today..I simply state the fact that the way our society has developed, I believe that the old fashioned marriage becomes more and more difficult to fulfill.

How can you be “an empowered woman” and at the same time be the loving and caring wife who is your husband's best friend, as much as how can you be a loving and caring husband, if you think that a woman’s place is in the kitchen? What is “wrong” with accepting that we ARE different and enjoy the benefits of what that means? Tolerance = willingness to accept feelings, habits or beliefs that are different from your own”. From Miriam Webster.


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  about 8 years ago

HI Arne! A beautiful article. I am still unmarried but read this content and increased my knowledge about relationship and more. thanks. I am looking forward for some excellent followers like you. please follow me and I'll follow you back so I also could be successful writer. Again Thanks and Cheers.

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks for your comment Vernon. I appreciate your valued comment and I also believe that there are too many people trying to run their lives without God to guide them. It's enough to mention selfishness, greed, pride and gluttony as a few of the problems that have infested many societies today. "C'est la vie".

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  about 8 years ago
Vernon L  

I know it have a negative affect on marriages Andy because it's hard for women to turn down that "empowerment" when they get home.I'm like you and believe they should be able to earn as much money as God allows them to, but I know from experience it affect they way they see their role in a marriage.

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  about 8 years ago
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