All things in marriage go through cycles where everything is firing on all cylinders and those where you can't even get a spark going. Sex is one of those things. But there are things you can do that will add more than a little spark back to your marriage bed and go straight to sizzling hot. The one thing you're not going to believe is that most of these little things that will have the two of you on fire for each other before you know it don't even happen inside the bedroom. In fact, you can do them all with your clothes completely on AND they won't take a ton of time out of your day and/or away from other necessary things on your schedule.

So, where should you even begin when it comes to the heated task of getting your love life back on track within your marriage? Marriages everywhere these days are suffering through dry spells that are filled with sexual frustration. The love is there. The passion is there when both parties can find the time and the energy (at the same time). The problem is getting on the same page at the same time sexually speaking. It's a problem that's happening to the best of marriage. We lead fuller lives than ever before and at the end of the day we're exhausted or still trying to work in one or two dozen more little things that didn't get marked off our "to do" lists during the day. There's nothing left over for sex and the momentary pleasure, stress relief, and diversion it provides.

Most people today are lucky to find the time for a five minute sanity break during the course of a day much less to find time for quality adult time together for the person they love most in the world. So how do you solve the problem before it gets to the point where you're looking for ways to get your ex back after your marriage has fallen apart?

1) Pencil time in for each other daily (15 minutes is a good start). This time isn't about sex but just alone time together to talk and connect as two people who love each other.

2) Spend five minutes each day touching. Back rubs, massages, holding hands, kissing, and cuddling are all perfect examples of the type of touching that's going to get you going.

3) Slip naughty notes into briefcases, lunch boxes, on bathroom mirrors, or in car visors that are sure to be seen by your spouse when you're not around. Just remember you must live up to those promises later or they will never work again.

4) Share your fantasies with your spouse. Marriage is about love and trust. There are sure to be some fantasies you haven't shared in the past that could definitely add a few sparks to your lackluster love life. It's time to dust them off for discussion. Who knows, you may share a few with your spouse. You don't have to do it…yet. Just open the doors by discussing it.

5) Spend a little time dressing up for your spouse. The sexier and more attractive you look; the sexier and more attractive you'll feel. Look your best. It won't take a lot of time out of your day but will make you a much more confident lover for your spouse and that is something that is priceless.

These are just a few small things you can do to improve the sizzle in your marriage. Of course, if there are other problems you're going to need a lot more than better sex to save your marriage and really make it work.