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Have A Cheating Spouse? How To Decide Whether To Save Marriage Or Move On?
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Have A Cheating Spouse? How To Decide Whether To Save Marriage Or Move On?

You think you have a cheating spouse but before you jump the gun and make a drastic decision about your marriage, check very carefully to ensure that you have not made a mistake! Most people would start to suspect their spouses are cheating on them by the tell-tale signs most cheating spouses would display. Signs such as changes in dressing, behaviour, working patterns as well as frequent quarrels, etc.

The list can go on but signs are just signs. In order to confirm, you should have concrete evidence or else you will not be able to take the next necessary step. You can either have a direct confrontation with your spouse but ensure that you do not put your life at stake by doing so. There are some spouses who can turn violent when their extra marital affairs are disclosed.

Thus, if you know that you have a spouse who could turn violent, have a private eye to spy on them and get the concrete evidence first. Also, when you are confronting such violent spouses, have a trusted adult friend or relative with you but make sure the children are out of the picture; you do not want them to get hurt.

Now that you have confirmed that there is indeed a third party in the relationship, what next? Are you going to remain married or should you go your separate ways? This can be a tough issue to solve but if you have a religious take on the problem, you may have a ready solution but otherwise, here are 2 tips to help you decide on your next step.

1. Time for some soul searching

Yes, I know you are the victim but things do not happen overnight. Have you both been spending enough time with each other? Unless your spouse has some exceptional sex drive that makes it hard for them to control their needs, most of the time, extra-marital affairs occur out of a sense of loneliness.

2. Do you still love your spouse

This is an obvious but important question that you need to have an honest answer for. However, you must also ask yourself if you are able to forgive and forget should you decide to remain married. On the other hand, this is also on the presumption that your spouse wants to leave the third party and desires to reconcile with you.

Keep in mind that there is nothing that cannot be resolved if there is still love in the relationship. If both of you decide that you still want to save the marriage, then work on building up your relationship again. To find that you have a cheating spouse is definitely not going to be an easy period for you but you have to remain calm and clear minded if you want to find an ideal solution for the situation.


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