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Did your boyfriend just break your heart when he said: "he will never marry you"? You never thought that you would enter into a relationship with the man of your dreams who just doesn't want to get married. How does this affect your future?
It's time to choose between what you heart desires and remaining with him as his girlfriend. It's pretty darn discouraging and disheartening. Before you let his decision rule your life, and your self-confidence more than it has just done, act now to make things different. If you want him to commit and put a ring on your finger your going to have to take action.
Because he says he will never marry you, it's time to take some steps to vary the driving force of the relationship. Generally men are quite happy in the relationship if he's getting everything he needs. You two could be living together right now in which case you're already providing him with the perks and benefits of having a wife already.
Or perhaps you live apart, but you spend all your spare time together tending to his every need. If you have been doing this, it's time to have a heart to heart with yourself. You must change and you need to change now. You can't take the role of wife without the commitment and ring.
It's time to for you to start holding back just a little. You will be able to do this in very elusive ways that he will see and which will have a big impact on him and on his stance of never wanting to marry you.
For example, if you were always there every night, start making some other plans of your own. Go visit some friends or spend some more time with your family. Even spending a few hours with some co-workers rather than him sends a message that you're not always going to be around tending to his every need and wants.
It's time to start making your own decisions. It's usual for a couple seeing each other to rely on one another for guidance. That's contemplative and it's suggestive of a deeper bond between them. All the same, if your boyfriend has been taking you for granted and takes a hard stance and says he will never marry you, stop asking for his opinion. Become more self-supporting and tell him that you've made your decision after the fact. This one change alone can really have a great effect on him as it indicates to him that you are behaving more as a single woman rather than someone in a committed relationship.
Little changes that you make lets him know you're feeling less like his life mate and more like you and will help him see things your way. Sometimes removing yourself from the equation in small, but subtle ways can let him see that marriage is very important to you and it's something he should be thinking about if the alternative is losing you.
Can you change his mind...about marrying you? Put these small changes in to place and see how he changes.
Another good one, well written and I agree on the points made, that should wake his sorry ass into changing his attitude...
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