You may think you are at the end of your rope. You are ready to give up. But don't you think you can give it one more shot, one more guided effort, with professional direction and assistance?

It may be one of the hardest things to do to forgive your spouse. This is one of the hardest things to do. All you need to do is to find out if it would work. Think of the long term effects on your children, and of course on both of you. Sometimes you must go through with divorce plans, especially if there is abuse. It is just not worth going through if you are in an abusive relationship. Not at all.

There are situations where a man has cheated on his wife, and has given the other woman food while his wife is short of money. How low can you get? Then he asks for her to take him back. Unless he shows definite, permanent signs of changing his behavior, no way! This is one of the most ridiculous things he could ask for. It goes both ways. There are women who cheat on their husbands and take money from the married couple's account to feed the man she is having the fling with. This is in no way acceptable.

Sometimes people stay together just because of the kids. This decision can be harmful for the kid to see as it is submission of a really unhealthy kind. This behavior should be avoided at all costs. It is important to be respectful to oneself as well as to other people.

Dr. Lee Baucom, author of Save the Marriage, relates a story about couple who were actually on their way to sign divorce papers at their lawyer's office, when they decided to stop in and see him. After an hour of talking with Dr. Baucom, they canceled their lawyer appointment. They subsequently worked out their situation and they have a happy marriage today.

Dr. Baucom wrote Save the Marriage specifically for married couples who are still in their marriage, but are having problems coping with problems. These problems can seem to be irreconcilable, but lots of people have been helped by this program. In fact, more than 60,000 folks have saved their marriages using Save the Marriage. The program has been sold and used since 2001, which is proof that it ha been valuable to many people for a long time.