Are you getting ready to take the plunge and make your walk down the aisle? Are you feeling a little nervous that you won't be able to make your marriage last? Or, is your marriage already on the rocks a little bit? Are you trying to find a way how to make your marriage a happy marriage? It isn't as difficult as you may have been led to believe. It does take work. Some of the work is hard. But, for the most part, you'll find that the benefits of a job well done are well worth the effort that making your marriage a happy marriage requires.

Marriage isn't all toil and labor. Good marriages have their fair share of fun and games as part of the plan as well. In fact, when you make fun a main factor (fun for both parties and not just one or the other) then your marriage is much more likely to be successful than those that are caught up in the grind of work and other commitments and have little time to enjoy some of the better (and more satisfying) things in life – like having fun together as often as possible.

You shouldn't have to jump through a bunch of hoops to have a happy marriage. If you both love each other fairly equally you won't need to. Marriage is a two-way street though and you will both have to shoulder some of the load in order for both of you to be happy and satisfied within the marriage. No one wants a marriage situation where everyone is out of sorts or feeling as though the work of the marriage is all up to them. It leads to bad feelings, arguments, and, if allowed to continue too long, divorce. You don't want to wait until you're trying to get your ex back to solve this particular problem.

But when you focus on happiness from the very beginning you'll be well on your way to a long and happy marriage – as long as you can continue to keep the focus on both of you being happy. The best thing you can do is to find happiness in your marriage by making your spouse happy. Now this doesn't mean that you need to give up your own identity or even doing things that make you happy. It just means that you should learn to find pleasure in giving pleasure to your spouse if your really want to have a happy marriage. Then your spouse is likely to return the favor and the experience. It becomes a gift that keeps on giving.

But it takes more than good will, good deeds, and one person making an effort to keep things happy to save a marriage when there is trouble on the horizon. If you want to make the most of your efforts to make your marriage work then you're going to need to learn a little more about how to bring out the big guns first.