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How To Save Your Marriage In Six Shockingly Basic Steps
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"How to save your marriage" may be uppermost on your mind, especially if your fights seem to be more and more frequent. On the other end of the spectrum, you may not be fighting, but you may not be interacting very much at all. If that is the case, you may just grow farther and farther apart.

Just letting your marriage drift is a dangerous thing. It also might surprise you that you could possibly take some very basic steps to solve the problem. Here are some ways you can deal with the problem when you are trying to figure out how to save your marriage. Some of them are quite simple, but it may shock you to learn that improving in those simple ares as has restored some marriages.

How can you solve the problem?

1. Leave your past relationships behind. One ancient piece of advice lets us know that we should leave father and mother in order to build a marriage of our own. We can expand on that leaving idea a little. We should leave past relationships behind (that doesn't mean that we have to forsake friends, but we are to leave those relationships behind that could interfere with our relationship to our spouses.)

Another thing you should leave behind is the "baggage" you tend to carry with you. It is important to get beyond bitterness and to forgive those who have wronged us. It is also very important that we forgive ourselves for past mistakes.

2. Resolve to have a commitment to overcome any adversity you might face. This is the most important commitment you can make in your marriage. Having such a commitment is one of the best ways to figure out how to save your marriage.

3. Learn how to celebrate your difference, but also to overcome them. Be grateful for your partner's strengths and personality traits. Truly value your spouse.

4. If you have intimacy issues, read about ways to help with a problem such as that. Some problems can be solved with a visit to your medical doctor. Others can be helped when you learn how to deal with stress that turns around and affects you in other areas of your marriage.

5. Study your spouse. Find out what his or her greatest needs are. Then do your best to meet as many of those needs as you can. If you want to know how to save your marriage, you won't expect your husband or wife to meet all of your needs, but you will do all your can to meet your spouse's needs.

6. Cultivate a spirit of giving. Be generous to your partner. If something needs to be resolved, perhaps instead of waiting for the other one to ask for forgiveness or for him or her to meet your basic emotional need, why not give of yourself, and strive to meet your partner's need whether he or she makes overtures to you or not?

These are six basic steps you can take to learn how to save your marriage. Some of the principles may seem so basic, that it shocks you to think that they would work.

So what? One couple had the testimony that their marriage was a real mess, but they read an expanded version of these principles to each other, and they both made several necessary changes, and their marriage was not only restored, but it was even better than before.


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