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I Want To Get Married, But He Doesn't
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OMG! This has got to be one of the most frustrating situations any woman can be in. Not only does it make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, but it makes you feel like you’re not wife material. You’ve heard some women say, “I’m the wife type”, right? Honestly, I if a woman have to say that, and then she really isn’t wifey type at all.

So, my guess is you’ve been with him for very long time and now you’re ready to tie knots. Don’t feel disappointed because you got rejected out of marriage. Most men have “cold feet” whenever the word “marriage” is mentioned. And there are some that are afraid of whether or not you will say yes.

My story before I got engaged

Let tell you a short story, before I got engaged on Christmas of 2011, I had been dating my fiancé for 8 years. Yes, I spent 8 years of my life, and 3 years of my life with him secretly wishing he would propose to me. See, his excuse was he wants to give me exactly what I want at my wedding, because he doesn’t I wouldn’t forgive him for it and I’d be mad because it’s not the type of wedding I wanted.

Ok, honestly, he is right to some extent, but it got to the point where all that didn’t really matter anymore. I just wanted to get married. I felt like we been together long enough and I’ve proven myself time and time again that I will be there for him 100% through all the arguments, fights, and bad times. I honestly felt like that was his only excuse to shy away from marrying me, and if he didn’t want to marry me, why was he still with me? All of these different emotions were going through my head and I started feeling like I was doing something wrong. I felt like I was not the wifey type. I began thinking that maybe I’m simply not good enough to marry, and maybe I was kidding myself to actually think a man would want to marry me. I’m telling you, all of these thoughts were eating me inside, and you’re probably feeling the same way right now.

Should you ask him to marry you or wait for him to as you first?

Let me ask you something, have you told him that you want to get married or does he show no sign of interest in marrying you? Each one of these makes a huge difference. Personally, I feel like no woman should ask a man to marry her, but it’s ok to bring up the subject just to see his reaction. No woman wants to not feel special, and I just think that when a man gets down on his knees and ask those 4 letter words, at that particular moment, we absolutely feel special in a very discreet and emotional way.

If you want to get married and he doesn’t, don’t give up right now. I’m sure he loves you if he’s still with you. However, what you want for him to be in “in love with you”. When he becomes “in love with you” is the day he will not hesitate to put a ring on it.

How do you get a ring? Hmmm, that will be up to you if you really want it. It goes down to making him feel like he can’t let you go, and he has to marry you before anyone else does. You have to admire him and a lot more if you want a ring. I suppose you probably listen to those women magazines, right? Oh, yea, did you know all those perfect women on the pages are airbrushed or photo shopped? No one is perfect my darling, but if you’re perfect for him, he has to feel it inside 100%, then he will propose to you with no hesitation.

Street Talk


my bf and i have been together nearly 4 yrs and he says he will marry me in another 6 or 7, after he gets better fiancially set and biulds our dream home. am i living in a dream world and he is just putting me off and really doesnt want to marry me?

  about 1 decade ago

Perfect for him, I love that statement. Good article.

  about 1 decade ago

Ahhh you girls are sly ones. Love the article

  about 1 decade ago

haha, we are sly, you're right, but for a good cause. lol

  about 1 decade ago

I really like your take on it. I mean.. even tho I'm a guy, I can still see a woman's perspective to gather a better understanding. You have really. You actually taught me a few things in this article, which are letting your lady know where she stands and do a few more little things to make her feel special and wanted ;D Great Article and Congratz

  about 1 decade ago

thank you izero, I guess experience plays a big part of it:-) It's so important to get a heads up than waste your time.

  about 1 decade ago
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