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Ive Messed Up And Handled My Marriage All Wrong, What Can I Do To Save It?
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I often have people tell me that they have really "messed up" or "done everything wrong" in their marriage and now, as the result of that, the marriage is in real trouble. Often they have taken their spouse for granted, treated their spouse somewhat badly, made mistakes, or have done things that they greatly regret - and now they are trying to fix this. Much of the time, they worry that it's too late because their spouse has finally reached the point where they are out of patience and are thinking about ending the marriage through a break, divorce, or trial separation.

I often hear comments like: “I've really messed this up and my spouse is ready to leave me. I want to show them that I can and will change but at this point they won't listen to anything I say. How can I show them I'm serious and sincere? If they will just give me one more chance, I'll prove to them that they won't be sorry. But how can I even get them to listen?"

Another example is “I know that I've handled my marriage all wrong. I took my husband for granted. I didn't always put him first. He took this behavior for a long time, but now he wants out. And now that I'm on the verge of losing him, I realize how stupid I've been. But how can I make this up to him when so much damage has been done? How can I show him I really can be a good wife and we can have a happy marriage if he will give me that chance?”

I believe most of these folks are sincere or they wouldn't have been searching on the internet so that they end up finding me. This following article is for them or anyone else in a situation where you know you've messed up in your marriage but now you want to save it.

Understand That It Might Take A While For You To Prove That You Are Sincere. But Be Prepared To Wait Them Out: Here's something you must understand. If you are at the point where your spouse has had enough, regaining their trust is going to be a process. It's very likely that they have heard your promises before and they have been disappointed with the outcome. So now, you have a lot of making up to do.

Honestly, your words likely won't completely cut it right now. (Although you should sit them down and be honest about what is in your heart and how you intend to make things right.) But, you are going to have to show them with your actions that you are sincere. And you are going to have to understand that at first they may not believe you and they may have their doubts. That's why you have to be prepared to keep on showing them that they can trust in the changes you are making and that you are no longer giving them empty words.

Make Them Believe That This Is About Them And Not You. They Must Believe That You Want Them To Be Happy In The Marriage: Here's where most people make the biggest mistake in this situation. They make it their mission to “get” or “make” their spouse change their mind about the marriage so that the spouse on the other end of this feels manipulated and that they are merely a player in a game.

After a while, your spouse may come to feel as though you don't really care about them and that you're just trying to get your way. You have to show them that it's different this time. You have to take the time to really understand what you haven't been giving them and give it to them now. This means that you must listen, reflect, and act accordingly.

If they believe that you are going out of your way to understand what they want and then give it to them so that they will be happy (and you are doing this because you love them, not because you want to get your way,) then they can't help but see that something really is changing for the better.

Don't Try To Change Their Mind Just For The Sake Of It. Offer Alternatives That Will Improve Their Situation: When many people are in a situation where they're trying to make drastic changes to save their marriage after a history of mistakes, they tend to ask for too much too soon. Yes, it's probably very tempting to ask your spouse to change their mind about the divorce, separation or break today or even this minute. But this is only going to get their antennae up and make them suspicious that you are just trying to manipulate them. A better suggestion might be something like: “I know you think you need some time and I respect that. Why don't I go stay with my family for a week while you sort things out? I want to give you what you need to be happy and to believe in me and our marriage again.” Frankly, forcing myself to give my husband space was the thing that turned my marriage around for me.

Be The Sweet, Attentive Person You Were When They Fell In Love With You: Here's one thing that might make you feel better. You know that it's possible for your spouse to love you. It has happened before. When you were being the best version of yourself, this is likely when they fell in love with you. Luckily, you are probably still that person somewhere. You just have to let your spouse see this.

If your spouse used to love your sweet words, say them again. If you used to make them laugh, now is the time to pull out your jokes. Whatever has worked for you in the past can be tried again, but only if it appears and genuinely is sincere. And only if you intend to keep it up until they trust that they really can believe you this time.

I know all this because I had to do this in my own marriage. I made many mistakes and my husband completely lost patience with me and wanted out. But in the end, I saved our marriage through hard work, a little posturing, and a lot of luck. If you want to read more about how I accomplished this, check out my blog.


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  about 9 years ago

I was having a boyfriend. We were known for long time only through phone. Suddenly through some event we met together and we promised we will be together for ever. Both of us are married and not satisfied with the present spouse. But because of some misunderstanding I quarreled with him and humiliated him in front of his friends. After that I realized my mistake and apologized with him like anything. He told me he will try to forget everything. After that we met once and he promised me everything happened because of misunderstanding and now we will together for ever.But after that we never met each other. when we plan to meet some hindrance will happen then it will stop. Also no proper communication. But for me he is my everything. He is the only one who gave such a good satisfaction in my life. I wanted him. I wanted him to meet me, to have sex with me, love me everything. He is very good.and l know He was made for me. But some hindrance keep keeping us apart. i tried to get close to him but nothing was working out until one day i heard about a spell caster called prophetharry@ymail. com, i decide to try his love spell and definitely it worked out perfectly for me, it never took time for the spell to start working, after some few days this guy i am loving came to me and wanted us to start dating, we are in love now, our lover is so tight that nothing can brings us apart, this love spell is wonderful shadonna

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  about 9 years ago
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i told my boyfriend to take a week space from me to sort out his feelings. i was hopeful that things would work out as he was always telling me that he loved me and had strong feelings for me. but all of a sudden he said that he wanted to be single and had doubts about our future together. i did cry but i did not beg him to stay. i said sorry for any hurt i had caused him and thanked him for showing me love. very hard but i did it with as much dignaty as i could. but i never understand why he dont want to stay with me. but before he left he told me i am irressistable, lovely warm person etc but he just want to walk away from my life. the pain was awful. our getting together was fateful and we found out our birthday both 1st june. he is 43 and i am 44. it was weird. i thought we were made for each other. he deleted my numbers but i never let go of him. i wanted him back but he has made up his mind so i had no choice but to look for a way to get him back so what i did was to look for a spell caster to help me get back my lover fast as possible, when i came across prophetharry@ymail. com, so he did a love spell for me and the spell came out perfect, my lover reconciled with me and we came back together and since then we have been in peace and the lover is flowing perfectly

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