This is the one question no one wants to ask in a marriage. Unfortunately, it's a question that must be asked in many marriages. With more than half of all marriages ending in divorce these days, it's a question that must be asked quite often. But it isn't a question that always has an answer. Sometimes an answer is found but other times the question lingers but love holds the marriage together even though times are tough. But you want more from your marriage than that.

Sometimes though you know that what you have is worth whatever struggle it will take to make it work. These are the times when you need to lay it all on the line and do whatever it takes to make things right between you and your wife. The road is wide open ahead of you. You just have to decide which path you're going to take and where you believe that path is going to take you. If you want to save your marriage there will never again be a time that's better than right this very minute to begin.

But you are the only one who can get started if the goal is to save your marriage. Of course, that will only happen if you've decided not to walk away. Is there ever a time when it's good to walk away? Is there ever a situation in which it's time to turn your back on the marriage you both had such high hopes for in the beginning? Believe it or not, there are some times when walking away is the best thing you can do for your own sake as well as the sake of your spouse. But, before you make that decision it's a good idea to be one hundred percent certain rather than risk finding out too late that it was the wrong decision and then trying to get your ex back.

Here are a few sure signs that it might truly be time to walk away from your marriage.

• You believe that there is no love left, on either side, to build on.
• There is abuse in the relationship.
• You are no longer willing, for whatever reason, to do the work required to make your marriage work.
• You believe, in your heart, that your marriage is not healthy for you and that it never will be.
• When you have many more bad times in your marriage than good times. Even marriages that struggle should have at least as many good times as bad in order to have something to build a future on.

Marriage isn't an all or nothing proposition but there does need to be something there to build on. If your marriage is in trouble and you want to save your marriage before things get really bad then you're going to need to learn a little more about how to make your marriage work so you can get it right.