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Marriage And Weight: What Happened To For Better Or Worse?
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Marriage And Weight: What Happened to For Better Or Worse?

Correct me if I am wrong, but the marriage vows, those promises that you swear to keep to one another in front of family and friends include "in sickness and in health" as well as "for better or for worse". Where exactly is the loophole that adds "unless you go and gain weight?" Sure, you are attracted to a person's appearance but who in their right mind is thinking this is the only way I will accept this person I married? Marriages, since they are supposed to be forever, encompass all ages, all manners of sickness and other issues and that should include weight, of course.

A very contentious article has been released that discusses this very topic. A woman had noticed that her husband had been growing more and more distant from her. Finally, she had demanded to know why he was not interested in making love to her any longer. He claimed it was her weight at that time and she believed him. The woman in the article went under a major life change, getting back into exercising and eating healthy foods. But, the husband in the story did not even notice when the woman had lost nearly forty pounds. If their is a problem with the marriage solely because of weight gain, that major loss would have cured it. Since there was no change, weight was just a convenient excuse.

The comments after this article were bitter and contentious. A few congratulated the woman on her weight loss and her new found goals but the rest were nasty and mean spirited. Men claimed that women in general gained weight on purpose "let themselves go" so that they can take everything the man has after divorce plus play the victim card in the process. The thought is ludicrous, outdated and one sided. There are plenty of men who gain weight after marriage. Statistically speaking, men out gain women by fifteen to twenty pounds after marriage.

When you marry someone, they look a certain way because that is their reality right at that moment. But, given ten or twenty years and the body, the face and even the hair color will change. Since people are supposed to be marrying for love, appearance should not be the main criteria for choosing a spouse. We get older and sometimes that means gaining weight, sometimes losing some. It means going gray or going bald. We lose our sight, our hearing or our ability to hop up out of a chair. Marriage is supposed to mean that none of that matters, but maybe not everyone gets these concepts so clearly.


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Vernon L  

You are so correct. I have picked up some pounds. ..lol But I think women are to hard on themselves when it come to gaining weight. Nice post!

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  about 9 years ago

Great article on a topic that is gaining importance!

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  about 9 years ago
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