Do you agree that marriage is a relationhip?

I have to tell you that I checked out the definition of a relationship and some marriages fall very short of that definition.

I looked it up on Wikepedia and in short here is what it says; a relationship is defined as "the state of being connected."

If that is the case then how is it that some couples never spend time together and don't know or seem to take any interest in the other person's life.

I am not saying that you need to be "joined at the hip"as it were, and I am aware that there is spiritual connection, but, we also live in a physical realm and need to be present here, at least some of the time.

Busyness is often the most sited excuse for not taking an active interest in a partner. But really, can you be too busy to take time to make a connection with the second most important person in your life?

Many marriage partners make time for their children, friends and just about everything else except their spouses.

They keep connected with others through phone calls, emails, greeting cards and of course activities such as going for a meal or to the movies.

They never do these things with or for their spouses!

Very often each partner is waiting for the other one to make the effort!

But why?

This is the person that you love spending time with and indeed want to spend the rest of your life with!

So , why be so coy and hesitant?

It should be so easy to be comfortably connected to this person through small spur of the moment gestures such as an impromptu invitation to lunch or to go to the movies.

Staying connected is the hallmark of a long good marriage, which is what all couples hope for when they say those magical words "I do!"

So, if that is the case then finding a way to fulfill the promise of staying together forever is imperative.

Marriage is a relationship and takes work just like ALL other relationships.

If you take your marriage for granted and become too disconnected you will lose it!

You will either become the leaver or the leavee and if you fail to make the connection as to the real cause of your marriage break-down then you will enter subsequent relationships just as unaware as you left the former.

Staying connected in a long good marriage is not just about paying bills, worrying about kids and the occasional sexual intercourse.

To make you marriage dynamic and enduring there needs to be playfullness and ordinary everyday appreciation of having found the person you want to connect to on such a deep and meaningful level.