Marriage problems plaguing you? Does it seem almost impossible to solve what you are facing in your relationship? Would you like to know how to fix problems in a relationship gone wild? While a short article can't solve all your problems, we can get you started on the way back to a good relationship.

It may be that you are facing a crucial stage in your marriage. You may have had minor issues come up that both of you avoided. Then you got in the habit of avoiding the issues, and the small irritations grew and grew into major marriage problems. Both of you also may have become more and more independent as this process unfolded. Well, if you continue on that path you will just grow farther and farther apart.

You can begin to fix these marriage problems by going back to the basics.

1. Examine yourself in basic areas of marriage. Have you left any "baggage" of the past behind? Do you really have a commitment to overcome any adversity you may face? Are you making real attempts to understand each other and communicate well? Have you dealt with any problems that threaten spiritual and physical intimacy? Are you aware of each other's basic needs? Are you willing to give of yourself in order to make things work? Learning to forgive each other and yourselves will help you to deal with problems in a relationship.

2. Check yourselves out on "the crazy cycle." Many men need to feel respected, important, and admired. Many women feel the need for love and romance. When one does meet the other's basic needs in that area, the tendency is to react by saying, "I won't show love until she shows me respect." Likewise, wives may say,"I won't show respect until he shows me love!" If you keep reacting, the "crazy cycle" will continue. In order to bread out of this, at least one of you will have take action by showing love or respect before the other party in the marriage moves in the direction you need.

3. it is best to desire not just to get back to where you were before problems escalated, but to get a spectacular marriage by embarking upon your own program of self-improvement. You may or may not overcome your problems in a relationship, but if you do your own program of self-improvement, you will come out better on the other side in either case.

If you take these basic steps to solve problems in a relationship, you will have a start at restoring your marriage and fixing your marriage problems.

Some of the tasks may be very difficult, but the results will be well worth the effort