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My Wife Says She Loves Me But Is Not In Love With Me – The Big Mistake That You Don’t Want To Make Now!
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As someone who gives marriage advice, one of the things I unfortunately here from men is my wife says she loves me is not in love with me.

If you’re in this spot, then I know that you’re probably a little devastated by hearing that, and also feeling a little panicky, like everything is about to end.

I want to ease that a bit, and tell you that there are some things you can do to take away the sting of this situation, and actually…get your wife nearly obsessing about you…like she probably was when you first met.

What to Do When a Wife Ways She Loves Me But Is Not In Love With Me…

First let me ease some of your fears.

Falling out of love with a spouse is normal and can be saved, and you can take comfort in the first part of her statement, that she LOVES YOU! That’s important for a starting ground.

Now there is a time when a wife usually has these feelings of being “in love” is lost, and that’s simply when YOU as a man aren’t doing the things that keeps her in love with you.

Huh…? What am I saying that it’s your fault? Well actually yes I am.

But don’t worry because just as easily as you screwed things up, and became the guy that your wife could easily fall out of love with, you can pull her back in by doing a few things differently.

Don’t Make the Big Mistake That Most Men Make When There Wife Says I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You…

So here’s the deal… When most men tell me my wife says she loves me but is not in love with me, I usually ask what they did after that. I almost always get the same answers…

I buy her things, I take her to dinner, I start trying to spend more time with her, I stop going out with my friends, I give her the remote (that should never happen lol)…

Basically these are all things that equate to kissing major butt. Guess what never makes a woman become obsessed with you and fall in love with you. That’s right kissing butt! So don’t do it!

Men have been making this mistake forever, not ever realizing that it’s the exact sort of behavior that repels women. You can see it at any singles bar or night club in the world. There’s always some guy kissing a women’s butt, buying her drinks, and falling all over himself for her. Of course she lets him…and then the first chance she gets she slips away with the guy that’s been ignoring her all night.

Despite all of your wrong instincts the last thing you want to do is kiss your wife’s butt and hang all over her. In fact the thing that you need to do is simply give her space, and then start acting like a REAL MAN that women (all women) truly want.

Start acting like an alpha male leader who isn’t going to kiss your wife’s butt or worry.

Of course you’ve go much more to learn now that you’re saying my wife says she loves me but is not in love with me, and I want to save my marriage.

I don't have the room to go over the three essential traits you must possess here. Nor do I have the room for the steps and tactics that it takes to regain control, earn respect, create immense attraction, as well as the astonishing love that you enjoy (with the added benefit of your wife's increased libido) once you begin to become the man of the house that you should have been from the beginning.

You’ve got to do this right or it won’t work… and will turn out ugly. To learn how click here now!

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Ultimately I don't know whether you will save their marriage, but I do think there is a good possibility you will sell them your product. No one is training people to be good romantic marriage partners, so they have to wait 'til everything falls apart, and they have to seek out the internet's marriage counselors. Sad but true.

  about 8 years ago

My wife and I got married 4 months ago after 4 & a half years living together. She been practically begged me to marry her. Our sex life had been great before marriage, but not soon after I started to notice a drastic change in her attitude and sex had stopped. I knew she was going through depression. It always happens around the holidays due to the death of her younger sister a couple years before we started dating. This year was particularly bad since her great grandfather passed away in November and her mom, who she has a rough relationship with, was going to prison for embezzlement. I just chalked all our lack of intimacy due to the grief and stress with her. Not to mention her job was really dragging her down as well. A couple weeks ago I asked her if she was mad with me about something, she said no. A few moments later she came back and said she wasn't happy. She felt like the stresses had caused the weight of the word to land on her. She told me she needed time and space. That night I slept on the couch. For the next three days she wouldn't really communicate with me and still didn't want me to sleep with her. On the fith day she came and told me she loved me and wanted and didn't want to lose me nor does she want a divorse. However, she asked for temporary separation. She said she was depressed and needed help with her before she could fix us. I was devastated, asked why of course, but agreed I would give her space and time when I could find another place to stay by the weekend. In the mean time I continued to work and stay at home in the spare beedroom. My worries and frustrations were taking a toll on me. She stopped calling me during the day and wouldn't say she loved me unless I initiated it. This was killing me. The night before I left to go to my brothers house to stay for a while, she told me she had more to say. She told me that she loved me but wasn't in love with me. She said she had felt this way for months and she didn't know why, but she had been feeling like this before we got married. It hit me like a bomb. She thought that after we were married her fellings would change but they hadn't. She said she was seeking counseling for her depression and wanted marriage counseling after that. A couple days later I left for my brothers house and have been here for a couple days. I haven't contacted her in any way and have came to the decision that in order to give her true space I won't unless she contacts me. Yesterday she called me to say she had got an appointment with counseling and she sounded happy. I was happy for her and have been playing the roll of being up beat. I fear the worst, but remain positive that with time she will realize she really needs me again. It's especially hard since I have been a great father to her child from her previous marriage. I call her my daughter and she calls me daddy, and it was devastating to me and her when I told her I was leaving for a while. Can someone please help and give me the advice I need. I just want to know if I'm doing the right things with not contacting my wife and staying away untill my wife tells me otherwise.. I do miss et and my stepdaughter more than anything, but when we do speak I haven't told my wife I love or miss her.

  about 9 years ago

I was having a boyfriend. We were known for long time only through phone. Suddenly through some event we met together and we promised we will be together for ever. Both of us are married and not satisfied with the present spouse. But because of some misunderstanding I quarreled with him and humiliated him in front of his friends. After that I realized my mistake and apologized with him like anything. He told me he will try to forget everything. After that we met once and he promised me everything happened because of misunderstanding and now we will together for ever.But after that we never met each other. when we plan to meet some hindrance will happen then it will stop. Also no proper communication. But for me he is my everything. He is the only one who gave such a good satisfaction in my life. I wanted him. I wanted him to meet me, to have sex with me, love me everything. He is very good.and l know He was made for me. But some hindrance keep keeping us apart. i tried to get close to him but nothing was working out until one day i heard about a spell caster called prophetharry@ymail. com, i decide to try his love spell and definitely it worked out perfectly for me, it never took time for the spell to start working, after some few days this guy i am loving came to me and wanted us to start dating, we are in love now, our lover is so tight that nothing can brings us apart, this love spell is wonderful shadonna

  about 9 years ago

HOW I GET MY MAN BACK TODAY i just want to start this way by giving a huge thanks to this man DR ABULU for what he has just done today in my life . at first i thought it won,t work because many has failed me before but on a second thought i said let me just try and to my best surprises Micheal my husband that said and insist he has nothing to do with me and my family called me immediately this great man DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo. com ) cast a love spell on him and started begging for forgiveness well i love him so much and at once i accepted him back and today we are both living in pace and harmony, all the same the glory is to this man DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo com DOC I THANK YOU once again for you are worthy of all the thanks in my mouth today and forever am grateful and shall ever be to you . i also want to say if you are out there passing through a similar stuff or issues you can contact him today and i bi live him will also help you out

  about 9 years ago
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