Since you discovered that your spouse had an affair, you have been feeling hurt, confused and like you may go crazy. All of these feelings are normal, and you are probably asking yourself if you will ever be able to recover from the infidelity in your marriage.

I will give you a few tips and ideas on how you will recover from infidelity, and rebuild your marriage, once you get over the initial shock and confusion.

Here are a few tips to help you deal with the infidelity that has occurred in your life.

1. Handle the situation: You are most likely still finding it hard to believe that your spouse would have an intimate connection with someone else. You are probably feeling that your marriage is over, but that is not so. You need to stop and realize that in a marriage or relationship, there are many rough times. Infidelity in your marriage is just another bump in the road. It is a very large bump in the road of your marriage, but it is not so big that you can't get over it.

2. Emotions must be under control: Having found out that your spouse cheated on you, can cause your emotions to run wild. It is normal to be furious, hurt, angry, and feel like you just want to scream. What you really need to do now, is to try and relax, sit down, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Once you calm down, and regain your composure, it will make it easier for you to possibly understand what has happened and why. Doing this will help you in getting on with the process of healing and rebuilding your marriage.

3. Don't Get Revenge: Although it may be very tempting to get revenge on your spouse, by going out and having an affair yourself, but what will you accomplish by doing that. You will only add to the madness that is already going on in your marriage. At this point, you actually have the upper hand. To save your relationship, your partner has very few options of what they can do. Your spouse will have to end the affair, if it is not already over, and he will have to plead with you to forgive him. If both you and your spouse want to save your marriage, and are willing to work together to start repairing and rebuilding what has been damaged, then you must be able to meet your spouse in the middle.

4. Get Rid of Your Demons: At times, you may unintentionally start thinking about the infidelity that your spouse committed. You may have terrible images come into your thoughts that make you extremely angry You need to immediately put all those negative thoughts and feeling out of your mind. Think about the good things that have been happening. Think about how well you and your spouse have been able to get closer by dealing with your relationship problems together. Sure, you will have ups and downs but those are every day occurrences anyway.

You need to focus on all of the positive things that are happening in your marriage. Realize how much guilt that your spouse must be carrying around. They have deeply hurt the one they love, and that they committed themselves to when they married you. They made a horrible mistake when they were possibly confused, and may have felt lost and alone, who knows. Now they are working together with you to repair and rebuild a relationship that they totally believe in, and you have to be right there with them.

The hurt and anger may never completely go away. With you both working together to regain your trust, and the love that you had thought was gone forever, it will be much easier to understand what happened and why. You will be able to give your spouse the forgiveness that they want and need so desperately.

You will find that you most definitely can and will recover from infidelity. You can rebuild your relationship and rediscover how strong your love for one another is, and has always been, it just got lost in the mist for a while.