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Understanding & Perfecting Your Marriage: Emotional Needs 101
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Understanding & Perfecting Your Marriage: Emotional Needs 101

Marriage & emotional needs? What is lacking? Fixing which deep-seated emotional issues will put the glow back in your marriage? Let's talk about marital emotional needs and learn how to fix them....right here.

Saving a marriage takes a lot of grit, determination, persistence and the obvious ingredient - a never-ending supply of love for your partner and the desire to make it work.

Whether you're separated and want to move back in or on the verge of it - analyzing the emotional needs that are lacking from the lives of you and your spouse and resolving them will ensure a happy, fulfilling married life for the both of you.

But - it WILL take work. A lot of it!

Here are a couple tips to get you started. One word of advice here before we kick off the marriage saving campaign - 'understanding and perfecting a marriage' or 'saving your marriage' cannot happen overnight and definitely cannot happen with a 2-3 pointers. But this will sure help you clear out the confusion in your mind and help you get started on the road to happy-marriage-ville.

  • Marriage - Emotional Needs Issue One - What do you want? What do you desire the most from your partner? What are your needs? In the daily stresses of life and marriage, somewhere couples lose track f what they truly desire from their partner. Instead, they fall into a vicious thinking trap - he should have said that, she should have done that - and the cycle goes on repeating itself untill they take charge of their marriage and work on it or let it slide till they finally leave each other forever.

Emotional Needs Resolving Tip One - Make a list of ALL the things that you want and NEED from your spouse. Whether it is as small as helping you with the dishes or as huge as verbal abuse and anger fits.

Then - create a comfortable, talk-able environment for the both of you where you can communicate and discuss freely.

What do I mean by a 'talk-able' environment?

You DO NOT want to discuss your desires when your wife is tired after a long day with the twins.

You certainly DO NOT want to have a marriage-saving-talk-a-thon when your hubby's back is acting up and he had 'one of those days' at work.

You want to save your marriage through your emotional needs issues? Then create an ambiance conducive to a heart-to-heart with good food or after a good night out with friends - something that will make your spouse eager to listen to you and also more prone to reveal their stuff too.

Isn't that what you want?

  • Marriage - Emotional Needs Issue Two - Don't GET angry while communicating - this is vital!

Resentment brewing deep within one or both the partners is bound to blow up like an angry volcano if the saving-marriage-emotional-needs-fixing discussion is not carried out properly.

Emotional Needs Resolving Tip Two - Don't be daunted. It's not as hard as it seems. The trick is to first let it all out - the whole list. Be polite. Be respectful. Don't talk about trivial matters like who picked the kids on Monday when they were not scheduled to!

Focus on the big picture throughout.

Remember - you want to make it work.

  • Marriage - Emotional Needs Issue Three - What is really bothering you? What is the one thing that is *eating you* inside?!! Is it bedroom boredom that is the bane of your marriage? Or it is your spouse's indifference? Maybe money is the root of all evils in your marriage.

Emotional Needs Resolving Tip Three - Whether it is family support or lack of compassion or financial woes or an attractive spouse - figure out what are the MAJOR key issues rotting away at your marriage and then get set to solve them and deal with them the right way.

All these "marriage & emotional needs'" care will work only if your heart is in the right place.

What place is that? - you ask.

Where your sole aim is the well-being and happiness of your spouse and your family.


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