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After struggling the horrors of postpartum, should you contemplate another kid? Recently in the news, Bryce Dallas Howard told the media that she and her husband were expecting a second child. She mentioned that she had suffered from postpartum and had contributed to Gwyneth Paltrow's GOOP Blog and that Brooke Shield's tome "Down Came the Rain" helped her through the ordeal. She is a very brave woman indeed.

After suffering terribly for over 2 years with postpartum depression, the question of a second child was always on my mind. In fact, it was one of the first things that my mind latched on to after baby number one was born. All my mommy friends were getting pregnant soon after their first one was close to a year old.

I was overwhelmed and obsessed by the idea. I played mental games and fantasized about should I or shouldn't I try for another one? "It would be so good/important" for my first child to have a playmate" and on and on. My mind raced back and forth over the possibility. But, I just could not make a decision.

Everyone told me to relax, don't worry, "you have time", they all said. I was already 39. How much time did I really have? And, I thought if I had to go through this insanity again, I might as well, "get it over with". I was really out of touch.

Then one day after a round of doctor, therapist and psychiatric appointments, (oh yeah, I need all of them, then!), I had four of them, professionals, mind you - tell me that I had a better than 50% chance of going through PPD again and as bad if not worse than before. I immediately thought, I am NOT a statistic, BUT, given a few days and I realized that even if I were not, I was not willing to put myself, nor my family through that kind of mental HELL, even if I could lessen the effects of PPD with anti-depressants, cause they too, were no picnic.

After making this decision, NOT to have another child, things started to make sense. I have a husband who travels quite a bit, so I am very often the sole caretaker and the parenting would have been more stressful on me. I am an "older" mom and physically, I had to admit I was not up to the challenge of going at it again, even though my daughter would have loved to have had a sibling. It was not to be. And that too was a hard pill to swallow. However, I keep her very very busy and life is what it is and it is good!


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