What do you want from your marriage, what are your own personal needs in your marriage or relationship. We all have needs and wants within our relationships. There are things that we desire and long for. What is it that you want from your marriage besides a trusting, faithful and loving spouse.

After your spouse cheated, and you both have discussed it as much as humanly possible, surely you have discovered what your spouse wants, needs and expects in your marriage.

During your talks, did you bring up any thing about what your own personal needs and wants are?

You have to think of yourself and your needs as well as those of your spouse. It is wrong and makes for an unhealthy relationship if you neglect yourself and your own needs. By doing this, you are alienating your spouse, and making it almost impossible for them to be able to give you what you need, and what will make you happy.

It is not fair to either of you, if you fail to show what it is that you need from your spouse within your marriage. You are making things much more difficult for your spouse, if you fail to communicate with them about your own feelings and needs.

If you don't communicate with your spouse, over time you may start feeling resentment towards them because they are not giving you what you need.

After a period of time, you may start getting the urge to seek what you want and need from someone other than your spouse.

You are heading in the same direction that your spouse did. Having an affair is not the answer to getting your needs met. It is possible that you think that your spouse is well aware of what your wants and need are. It is also possible that you are wrong, and your spouse is feeling rejected and bitter because they have no clue what you need.

You may not be communicating with your spouse very well. You might think that just because you both talk with one another, that you are communicating, but it goes a little deeper than talking.

You need to sit down and think about what your feelings are. What are you feeling that you need or want from your spouse that you are not getting. You may have been neglecting your needs and not letting your spouse know what it is that you want and need from them.

It is very easy for many of us to go around neglecting our own needs. Neglecting your own wants and needs is an easy thing to do. You really do it unconsciously, you simply do not think about yourself or your needs and go through life with a kind of emptiness. You have a feeling that you are missing or lacking something, but you just can't put your finger on it.

This is why you must sit down and start thinking about yourself for a change. What do you feel is missing, what do you wand and feel that you really need from your relationship.

Once you realize what it is that you have longed for, then you will know what it is that you need. Now that you have discovered what it is that you want and need, you need to learn how to actually communicate you needs to your spouse.

When you open up about your needs to your spouse, you will see your relationship quickly start to improve. You will be amazed what a difference it can make when you and your spouse are able to talk freely with one another, and understand what you each need and expect from one another.