Getting back with your ex is always a difficult task when cheating is involved. I'm sorry to have to meet you in these type of circumstances, but lets look at what we can do to get your wife talking to you again and avoid divorce....

The first thing you need to look at is how to communicate with her.... Even if she doesn't respond, you need some form of communication directly to her so you can explain things. Lets see.... there are text messages, e-mails, social media sites, notes, letters, poems..... You know what? I bet you have already tried text messaging... if not, DON'T.

It's really not going to do you any good and I'll tell you why..... She can easily delete it, ignore it, and hand it to someone else to respond to.... I don't think you need anyone else in your personal business... E-mail and social media sites are almost as bad. They are impersonal, easy to ignore, easy to delete. If you are looking for relationship advice to truly fix relationship, go with the HANDWRITTEN note, letter, or poem.

How to Save My Marriage

So, you know how to communicate with her now... What should you say? This is a very delicate situation and saying the wrong thing could end up in divorce. So, let's keep it simple and let her know you care about her and ONLY her.

The first thing you will want to do is APOLOGIZE, then agree with her choice to leave you and not talk to you. Next, you want to let her know how much you care for her and only her. Tell her that you made a huge mistake, that it meant nothing, an that she is the only on you have ever cared about. Use your own words, but do whatever you can to get the point across that she is the only one you care about and that she does not have to worry about you cheating on her again.

A TRICK TO GET BACK YOUR EX

Here's the trick when writing to her... You do not want to BEG or come off as needy. You can tell her that you need her, but don't beg her to come back or she could easily get the wrong idea and RUN...

Getting back together and avoid divorce require some time and patience.... So, when you send her your first note... don't expect to get a response... you might be pleasantly surprised, but don't plan on it.... the second letter or note you send should be in the tone of a casual conversation.....

Ask her how she's doing, briefly apologize, then move on. Tell her how you are doing and suggest that you would be up to talking sometime. Leave it open for her to make a move. End with something along the lines of talk to you soon. Leave your number at the bottom of the letter.

You know she has your number, but seeing it may make her want to call it. It will at least make her think about it. Once she calls, let her talk, try not to interrupt. Tell her how you feel and say sorry, I never meant to hurt you. I can mean so much more to her hearing it from your very mouth. The first verbal contact can mean the difference between avoid divorce and a doomed marriage.

BE PATIENT

To get back with your ex, you want to take it slow and easy. Suggest going out to coffee or lunch and talking. Let her take it as slow or fast as she wants to. You will know when she is ready to fully take you back and trust you again. If you try to rush it, you could scare her away and make her change her mind about giving you a second chance. Get back with your ex by taking baby steps.