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When Your Husband Doesnt Want To Have Sex - What Do You Do?
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When Your Husband Doesnt Want to Have Sex - What Do You Do?

What do you do when your husband doesn't want to have sex? That may seem like a strange question to some of you, but for others it is a very serious one. Sometimes you hear that all you have to do for your husband to want to have sex is for you to "show up!"

We bring this up because in a surprising number of cases, this type of question comes up at some point in a marriage.

So, what do you do?

Here are some ideas:

1. Don't be too quick to beat yourself up. It is natural to look to yourself to see if you are part of the problem. You may be, but don't jump to that conclusion without considering some other things first.

2. Realize that stress outside of the marriage may be affecting your husband. If he works until he is exhausted, that can sometimes be a factor in this area.

Also, although we often view the wife as being the one where all of life seems to be interrelated, this may be the case for your husband, at least in this respect. Stress outside the marriage can cause him stress inside the marriage, and it may affect him in his desire for physical intimacy. While that may surprise you, it may confuse him quite a bit too.

These have been two ideas you can implement when your husband doesn't want to have sex. Let's look at a couple more.

3. Check yourself out on the reaction cycle related to love and respect. It works sort of like this. When she does not feel loved, the wife reacts and she fails to make her husband feel respected. Then, when the husband does not feel respected, he reacts and fails to make his wife feel loved.

If you and your husband are on that cycle, one of you will have to act instead of react. It might as well be you. Look for ways to make your husband feel admired and respected (if you are not already doing that.) Sometimes this can be a major factor when your husband doesn't want to have sex.

4. While I don't want you to be too quick to feel like this is all your fault, there may be some things that you can do to get your husband's attention, to relieve stress, and generally make yourself irresistible to him. You really want to learn any techniques that will help, but more importantly, you want to put what you learn into practice.

5. Have a frank discussion, and see if there any medical issues. Sometimes hormone levels become low in men, just as they do in women, so be sure to check out the medical issue possibility.

More than likely, implementing one or more of the above suggestions will help you turn things around, or perhaps they will get you started on figuring out what to do when your husband doesn't want to have sex, and perhaps your marriage will be better than before. It may even become a blissful marriage in all areas, not just the physical intimacy area.

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