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Why Men Pull Away From Commitment And Marriage
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Face it; you’re one of the millions of women that men pull away from. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be on this page trying to find out why men pull away. Don’t feel embarrassed, you’re not alone, and though tons of women have this problem, they will hardly ever tell you about it. This is why I want to congratulate you on taking the steps to figure this thing out, because you deserve to be happily married.

It’s not rocket Science to why men pull away, but hey, I’m not here to judge, because it seems like Science has a lot to do with it. We often miss the most important steps further our relationship and end up wondering why he doesn’t want to commit and get married.

Why do men pull away from commitment and marriage?

Look here, I’m not a relationship expert, ok, but I do know one thing. It’s a fact that I am engaged and trust me it wasn’t easy. It wasn’t easy because I spend 8 years of my life with my fiancé before he proposed to me, and if you know anything about really loving someone, you will know that it takes a lot not to walk away and give up on someone that you admire and is in love with. Truthfully, I take a lot of stuff from him and he takes a lot of stuff from me, we are not perfect, we know it and still love each other either way.

So, with that said, I’m going to give you 2 reasons why men pull away from commitment and marriage.

· Men can sense a woman that doesn’t love herself. A woman that doesn’t love herself will constantly try to make him love her by going to the extreme of doing things for him, and she will allow him to manipulate her even if he lies and disrespects her in her face. A woman that doesn’t love herself is desperate and thinks that a man will love her if she does anything he tells her.

· Keeping secrets and holding your tongue back will never get a man to marry you or commit. In any relationship, dating or just having sex, you must communicate with each other, whether it’s positive or negative. Whenever you don’t express yourself and speak your mind, he will consider these three things:

1. He will think you’re weak minded

2. He will think you have low self esteem

3. He will cauterize you as “can’t be trusted”

All three of these things are not good for you, because men want a strong minded woman, a woman with confidence and woman that he can 100% count on to be real and not keeping secrets. Does this apply to you? Well, I guess you have some work to do. Work on yourself and once he sees the change, he will commit, and you to will also see change in him. There are tons of resources out here that you can get some type of help from. Don’t fall in the middle of the millions of women striving to get a ring, be a testimony of getting that ring girl.


Street Talk

Vernon L  

WOW! That's it, that's all! There is nothing like a strong minded woman. But I must also add, we love a woman who knows her role in a relationship. That's big! Great post!!

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  about 9 years ago

Great article saytue...It's probably eaisier to have teeth pulled tan to get a man to commit!

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  about 1 decade ago

I don't know Connie. Getting my tooth pulled hurt like a MF. lol

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  about 1 decade ago

most men feel pulling away will solve issues

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  about 1 decade ago

I don't think it's solve issue thing. I believe it's a ego thing.

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  about 1 decade ago

Good advice Saytue!

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  about 1 decade ago

Wow 8 years, that certainly shows persistence. Sounds like you made the right choice not to give up and walk away.

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  about 1 decade ago

Thanks Penny. I had so many men trying to get me too. I was hard, but at the end of the day my fiance is everything to me.

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  about 1 decade ago

Thanks Penny. I had so many men trying to get me too. I was hard, but at the end of the day my fiance is everything to me.

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  about 1 decade ago

I once heard some very good advice in two words: Be you. It can even be shorted to two letters: B U.

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  about 1 decade ago

i agree

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  about 1 decade ago

My wife and I dated/were engaged for about seven years before we got married. We'll celebrate our 24th anniversary in August.

  
  about 1 decade ago
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