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Wife Hates Me – How Do I Get My Marriage Back To Where We Used To Be?
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If you’re in a marriage where you’re saying or thinking my wife hates me, then you’re probably wondering what’s going to happen to your marriage.

At this point, in your mind, you’re probably thinking that it means eminent failure.

But the truth is that you can turn this around, if you just do a few things right.

What You Need to Do When You’re Saying My Wife Hates Me...

So you’ve probably been living in this marriage feeling pretty down and low. The truth is that it’s not fun living in a marriage where you think you’re wife hates you.

You talk to her and you feel like she doesn’t even want to hear your voice. You walk into a room that she’s in, and you feel like walking out because she probably doesn’t even want you in there with her.

What happens is that very often you aggravate the problem because of these feelings. It’s really not your fault in one way, because what else are you supposed to do when you feel like someone hates you? You usually just want to give her the space that you feel she wants right?

But actually you may be missing the boat here. You may be hearing or feeling my wife hates me, but what’s really happening is that your wife is just acting out in order to get your attention. Saying I hate you is pretty attention grabbing isn’t it? So she’s getting her wish, but it’s not really what her wish may have been.

More than likely though, what she’s saying or showing you with the words or actions of I hate you is that she simply doesn’t care for the person you’ve become.

Now this may get a bit confusing. So stay with me on this…

It’s likely it’s YOUR fault that your wife feels this way. Well, in a way it’s your fault. In other ways it’s societies fault, but let’s not play the blame game or the victim here. Let’s just try to get your marriage back, and get you to quit having to say my wife hates me.

What’s likely the cause of most of this turmoil is that you’ve stopped being the man that your wife needs, in order to feel attraction to.

Now where does attraction come in play? Attraction means more than you may have ever imagined to your marriage. Your wife not being attracted to you can easily result in you thinking my wife hates me, or her even thinking that she hates you. But what’s actually happened is that she simply isn’t attracted to you anymore and doesn’t understand how to express it properly.

So what happens basically is that you lose the traits that women actually NEED for a man to have to feel immense attraction for. Now this is more science than anything else. Your wife, deep down in DNA from her ancestors, through human nature, needs a certain type of man.

She needs a leader. An alpha man as some will call it.

No she doesn’t need you to mistreat her, treat her like dirt, or pull around by the hair like the cartoons of cavemen. But what she does need is for you to be the type of alpha male leader that she can count on to lead her and your family.

You may have lost this, or maybe you never had it, but it’s essential to keep a woman attracted and therefore in love with you. There’s no two ways about it. It’s really the only answer for you not having to say my wife hates me.


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