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You Have Had An Affair – How Do You End The Affair?
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You have been having an affair for a while now, and it is time to end it. It is time to get back to your spouse and your marriage and repair all of the hurt and damage that you have caused. How do you end the affair?

There are several ways that you can end and affair. Depending on how deep your feelings are for your affair partner, this can be a very difficult break. You may feel that you are leaving a safe haven that you could go to when you needed affection and comforting. You can feel a dedication to this person, that you are unsure about leaving.

If you honestly want to rebuild your marriage, you have to end the affair, and completely stop any and all communication with your lover. You cannot have any contact with your lover, soon to be your ex lover, and still expect to rebuild your relationship with your spouse.

Do not go to meet with your paramour in person to end the affair. There is the possibility that they will tempt you into continuing with the affair, and you have enough to cope with at the moment, and do not need this additional temptation.

There are four main ways that are best to use to end your affair:

  • You do not have any further contact with them at all
  • Call them and let them know that the affair is over
  • You can write them a letter and send it in the mail
  • You can write them an email and send it to them

You have to understand that you are doing this so that you can start working on putting your life and marriage back together. You need to realize that when the affair has ended, and you start the healing and rebuilding process of putting your marriage back together, you will begin to feel better and more confident than ever.

This can and will more likely than not take some time to recover from your affair, but it can be done, and you and your spouse can do it as a team. When you work together, to heal your emotional wounds, it will help you both in building a stronger bond of trust, confidence in one another, and you will have a much stronger marriage and relationship as a result.

The stronger your love and trust in one another will also help ensure that neither of you ever have the desire to look outside of your marriage for companionship.


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