A Real Life Example

Personally, I keep myself fit and healthy. I go to the gym very consistently. My goal in the beginning when I started was to look like an athlete. I wanted to be jacked and completely ripped. After 6 months I was truly on my way and I felt like nothing could stop me, until one day my shoulder started hurting. (To understand more about what I am explaining please check out my article: How To Know What Is You Part 2: The 4 ways you are being guided.)

Both of my shoulders got inflamed and I had a strong injury on my left shoulder. This caused me to be in a lot of pain and I couldn’t lift anything with my left arm anymore. I decided to stick it through, do some therapy to get back in shape and then continue with my goal. In the meantime, I would still spend about 2 hours at the gym just working out my legs and abs.

Then I started noticing how fatigued I was after I came back home from the gym. (Physiology)

I started to talk more negatively to myself. (Psychology)

It had to motivate myself to go to the gym instead of just going because I enjoyed it. (Psychology)

I started telling my friend and family how I would have to sacrifice my love for food if I wanted to look like an athlete. (My own language)

*The same signs I outlined in my article How To Know What Is You Part Two to be true to yourself.

Then I asked myself: What is truly me? Where does my language change from, “I want to go to the gym” to, “I have to go to the gym?”

I realized that I had this fantasy about being this massive jacked up athlete, because of injected society’s values. I wanted to look like society told me to look like. But I realized that this was not me.

Today I still have a very consistent track record, however, the intensity and time I put into my workouts have decreased. Now, I feel like I am working out exactly the amount I want to and I am very honest about how much I want to work out.

Being Honest

Please look at your own life. Please examine the language you use on a day to day basis. Look at each area of your life: Your Spiritual, Mental, Vocational, Financial, Familial, Social and Physical life. Find out what you are doing that you feel like you should be doing. Find out what you must do because someone else told you to do it. Find the true you and stop living someone else’s life. If you continue on this path, you are doomed to fail. Even if you find success, you will never find fulfillment.

Fulfillment is an art, the art of knowing oneself, knowing what is you. Most people never reach success even fewer reach fulfillment.

If this didn't make much sense to you go to Part One of the series.