Your Language As Your Guide

We talked about what how knowing what is you looks like in part one. We talked about what signs you need to look after in part two. And now we are going to look deeper into the day to day language you use to look for more signs of truly finding yourself.

There are some words in your vocabulary that you use that will tell you right away if what you are doing is truly you. I want to show you those words and how you can know what is you through the language you use. Once you are aware of the language, it is much easier, to be honest to yourself.

When Someone Else Tells You

It all starts with Family and then goes to Community, Society and the World.

Family Pressure “I have to become a lawyer, because my parents are lawyers”.

Or you might have the community, society or world’s pressure keeping you captive in their rules of how your life should look like. I can guarantee you that if you live under someone else’s authority you will not find fulfillment.

Community/Social/Word Pressure “I must do it this way to be respected and to be accepted by society”

The movie Billy Elliot is a wonderful example. Billy is a boy who loves to dance. But he is torn between the expectations of his father and to the gift with which he has been blessed.

Here is the language you use if you are acting out of someone else’s authority or out of the injected values of our society.

The Words That Do Not Belong In Your Vocabulary

I have to, I should do, I must, I could do it, I am not sure about it, it’s so difficult, I feel so tired afterward, I feel exhausted doing it, I will sacrifice what I love to do it, I hate doing it but I must, etc.

Every time you do something because you have to or should do it, you can already realize that you are living someone else’s life. These activities do not belong to who you are.

Recognizing Pressure In Your Own Language

One example where it is easy to know what is you is in the health and fitness industry. Most of us have been told that in order to be accepted and liked by society, we have to look physically fit. Being healthy is important, however, the media brainwashes us through media and making a new norm out of being healthy. Especially women struggle with this the most.

Here is one of the patterns:

If I want to get (X) I should sacrifice (X). If I want the perfect body I have to sacrifice the food I love. A person that is truly invested and their nature is about eating the right food and going to the gym consistently don’t see anything as a sacrifice.

A person that truly values health and fitness because of who they are says: “I truly want to live a healthy lifestyle and I have no problem doing whatever it takes to get it.”

If at any point you feel you are sacrificing anything to get to your goal, it means that you are living under someone’s injected values. You are subjugating to someone else’s rule of how you “should” look like. This is also true in finance, spirituality, education, vocation and in your family. In all areas of life, we have been told what our life “should” look like. Making everyone the same, but no one is ever like someone else.

There is not a single human being with the exact same interests, values, and mission in life. In order to break free from these expectations, you have to know what is you and be true to yourself.

Part Four comming soon...