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What does someone say that makes you fall in love with them? Could there be a way to actually control the love that they feel for you? Most of us think that love is something magical and it happens when it happens. However, what if you could create love and make anyone love you? What would you do with that power?
If you want love to stay magical then I encourage you to close this website right now and forget about learning how to make anyone love you. But if your desire is to learn how to create the feelings of love in the other person and make them feel more attached to you then read on because…
…today, I am going to lay down for you the exact step by step process on how to make anyone love you. I am going to show you what someone says that actually makes you fall in love with them and build a deeper connection with you. You can use this technique with friends or with the opposite sex to keep them interested and create the feelings of love.
What makes someone build a deep connection with you?
There are techniques and rules that build or break rapport with someone. If you know these techniques you can build a connection with someone much faster. Common sense would tell you to never punch strangers in the face for fun if you want to build a deeper connection with them. This is very simple to explain because they associate bad emotions to you right away, and this is the secret. Emotions! Being able to associate “feel good” emotions that make the other person feel closer to you. Now, how do you get someone to feel good with you? How does the other person associate those emotions of love to you?
Cupid’s Arrow
One of the most effective techniques to make anyone love you is building rapport through anything that happened to you when you were a child. Do you ever think back at the good times when you were a child? When you talk about your childhood with someone you automatically feel closer to the other person. So at this point, you want to learn how to bring up your childhood effectively and anchor a good feeling to your conversation.
How To Talk About Your Childhood Effectively
One of the most important steps you need to understand is that you need to be vulnerable first. You must lower your defenses before the other person does. I am going to teach you the steps involved and give you an example of how this will work.
It is extremely important that you are honest in choosing your own story because the person that you will create the feelings of love with will connect to your story. If you build a story that is not true then they will connect to a person that you really aren’t.
Step 1 “I don’t know how it is for you, but for me...”
With this simple step, you are explaining to the other person how you feel about your experience. This first step is very important because you are opening up first. When you tell a person how you feel about an experience you won’t encounter any resistance. They can stay in the moment which is crucial to building rapport.
Step 1 common mistakes
Most people talk in “You mode” and say something like "You know, when you come back home and you are so tired you just want to take a nap, eat something or watch TV? You know what that’s like, right?” The other person might not share the same feelings about your experience.
Step 2 “When (ever) I ____ I feel ____” So we are going to combine Step 1 and Step 2 together.
Example: “I don’t know how it is for you, but for me sometimes when I come back home I just feel so tired from working all day long that I just want to relax, eat something quick, take a nap and enjoy the rest of the evening. It’s like taking a small vacation from life. “
Step 2 common mistakes
Please don’t do something like "When I come back home I feel tired." You don’t want to do this because you are not transferring any emotions to the other person. You need to describe the event that makes you feel a certain way so the person you are talking to can start feeling what you are feeling.
Step 3 “Do you know what I mean?”
In this step, you get a confirmation that the person you are talking to is following what you are saying. If the person is nodding their head while you talk to them, then you already know they get what you are saying and you don’t have to ask them.
Step 3 common mistakes
You need confirmation for a reason. If the other person says “No” then don’t just assume that you will build a connection anyways, because you won’t. If you get a “No” you have to change the topic and find something the other person can relate to.
Step 4 “This reminds me of when I was a child…”
Example ““This reminds me of when I was a child when I came back home from school I didn’t have to worry about bills or rent money. My mom would cook me something every time I came back home. I could just kick back and relax every time or whenever I wanted to go out and play I did. It felt like I was taking a vacation every time. It was such a worry free time from all the adult stuff. “
Get confirmation from the other person here as well.
Step 5 “Ever since then…”
Example: “Ever since then every time I come back home from a long day at work and relax and stop worrying about everything, I feel like I still know what it means to be a child, even though I know that I am not. I can take this experience and apply it to my everyday life to be worry free whenever I need to. This makes me feel so good.
Step 6 Seal The Emotions “Does that make any kind of sense to you whatsoever?”
This is a great question, because even if the other person relates to your experience a little, you will still be able to build the connection. Once you have the confirmation usually the other person will feel a deeper connection to you and vise versa.
The reason is because you are taking an old experience and connected it to your experience now. That allows the other person to see the process you have made and makes them feel as if they were part of what you have learned.
Conclusion
Once you have gone through the whole 6 steps successfully you can’t help but feel a deeper connection to the other person as well. How to make anyone love you is a two-way street. Really look back and start thinking about your own childhood and what you have learned and taking from it. Now you know what it takes to make anyone love you.
Try this technique and let me know how it worked for you and share with us on this page your successes or your trial and errors. If you have any questions leave a comment below.
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