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We all decide to have children when we feel the time is right. Sometimes it just happens and we do the best we can to make it work. I am 41 years old, I have 4 children ages 22, 14, 10, and 7 (almost 8). I have been thinking recently that children are meant to had when we are younger. Centuries ago women used to have children when they were basically children themselves. This somehow became wrong, well yes a 13 or 14 year old should not have a child in this day and age.
The age range I am thinking of is between 18 and 25. But this is the time most women and men are going to college to obtain a career to be able to afford a family. Like I said this was a thought for me, I had a child and went to school and started a career. I wish I would have had the courage to have all my children in that 4 to 5 year time span after I started working.
I love my children and I suppose I had them when I was meant to but the older I get I have noticed the less patience I have, which is my problem not theirs, especially for the youngest one. She is so smart and so busy. I feel that if I were maybe 10 years younger my patience would not be so thin. But it is what it is and I must not make her feel bad because of it. When you have children when you are younger you grow with them. Sometimes I look at my oldest son and wonder where has the time gone. I miss being able to see him everyday but I know he has to live his life and I am only a phone call away.
I have heard the saying children keep you young, and this may be true to some degree. I know I am not old but I am getting older. I just don't want my old getting set in my ways to be a disservice to my younger children., but I suppose that is for me to work out in the end.
The point I am trying to make is that if you are able and want to have them when you are young and can grow with them. The older you get the less you tend to grow and bend and see things form a child like perspective. No matter when you have children whether the time is right or not, the work is still the same. They will always be your children, always love you and need you no matter how old you are.
Wow! Thank you! I am glad I am not the only one! Well not that I thought I was. LOL But yes it will pass and they will be gone so I just need to go with the flow and lighten up. :-)
Julie, I totally hear where you're coming from. I had my first child at 30 even though we married when I was 22. Now that my friends have children who are 5 or 10 years older than mine I get envious of them being able to do more things for themselves in their 40s while I'm still stuck in the child raising routine. How quickly I've forgotten the early years I had with my husband though when we traveled, worked together, acted in the local theatre group, played ice hockey twice a week and other things. So on one side of children or another we all have the same opportunities. We just have to make the most of our now! I sometimes have less patience as I get older with my kids too so we can form a club... I think it's just frustration that as I age I finally know what I want and can't always have it with my current situation! This too shall pass.... smiles to you!
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