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Top Reasons You're Killing Your Motivation
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Top Reasons You\'re Killing Your Motivation

Why does it seem like some goals are so hard to follow through? Take weight loss for example, why do most people start off highly charged and optimistic, full of drive and motivation but lose that empowerment and fail to meet their goal? We are creatures full of good intentions, but many of our most desired goals never come close to completing often because we lose our motivation.

Why? There are so many helpful tips and suggestions to help us reach our goals and most really do work... If we stay motivated. What gets in our way? What can we be especially aware of to combat loss of motivation? There are indeed a few more common reasons we as humans get off path and end up losing that drive.

A biggie is striving for perfectionism. We may not consider ourselves perfectionists, but take a closer look when taking on a new goal. First off, analyze your end goal. Is the end result practical and truly attainable in the first place? If we are striving for something so far from our natural capabilities, we may end up more surprised at loosing our passion to go after it than we thought. Also, if we are looking for perfection in ourselves it will be extremely difficult to manage setbacks when we confront them. No one can reach a goal without some challenges along the way, that person would be perfect. We are not perfect, so stop trying to be!

How about self comparisons? Are we trying to do or be as good as someone else who reached a similar goal? "My neighbor just lost 20 pounds, I'm going to too!" Losing 20 pounds may indeed be a realistic and healthy goal for you, maybe not. Either way, the manner in which somebody else accomplishes something is not a promise that you can do the same. We all need inspiration in life, that is undoubtedly true. But when we strive to meet our goals at someone else's pace, it becomes their goal in our self. Constantly comparing ourselves with others is not only unrealistic, but unhealthy. You are an individual and need to be patient and understand your unique needs and potentials. We only begin to see what we're capable of when we focus on ourselves, what we're capable of, and not others. I like what a friend told me one time, "Trying to be like anyone else is a waste of time. There is only one "you" and that is who you should be.

Lastly, we may have in the beginning a great deal of motivation, but little plans to carry it out. When you have a plan you have something to stick to, a sense of accountability. It becomes easier to make excused for why you couldn't get that activity done. Really, there will always be an excuse for why you didn't have time or couldn't make that happen. Things get done when we have priorities and priories are set out within a plan. A good plan will keep you on track, help you know where to make sacrifices, and reach the next step. As you accomplish that next step, your motivation will be refueled.

These are the major things I've noticed in myself and others that have a negative impact on staying motivated. If we act otherwise, act decisively, and play an intentional part in reaching goals, we will renew our strength and motivation continuously. That is something worth taking charge of.


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C4rmen  

I really understand your brilliantly article Ally. Perfectionism, comparisons and lack of planning all eat away at motivation and progress. Just by being aware of these things I can change their effects. Cheers! I also find it helpful to have a really strong emotional reason tied to my goal.

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  about 7 years ago
  

Yeah having your passions drive you is the most effective way to stay on track! Thanks for sharing!

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  about 7 years ago

I find motivation short lived in ones head, unless it is a major goal to which you strive in life. Most of us begin something highly motivated and then find something else occupies top place in the motivational area of the mind, top moves one down now not so important. Its what I call the stack theory, to keep motivated on something you must consciously move it back to the top of the stack. Good article as per comment below, and again this is just how I see it. A good article creates discussion well done

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  about 7 years ago

very good points. One thing I find keeps me motivated is "not overdoing it" Let's take writing articles for example... I don't set a goal to write 10 articles a day. I just write whenever I feel like it. If I set out to write 5 / 10 articles a day it will seem like a "job" and would get me frustrated and bored very quickly thus losing motivation! may work for others but not for me.. lol maybe I'm wrong too..

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  about 7 years ago
C4rmen  

I agree, 'chunck it down' as they say, into smaller goals. Helps me stay on track too.

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  about 7 years ago
  

It's the little steps that add up. Making them managable makes goals possible to reach!

  
  about 7 years ago
  

Yeah I get that, its a buzz kill when goals become more like work and less like a journey.

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  about 7 years ago
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