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Tips On Parenting The Turbulent Tween
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Tips on Parenting the Turbulent Tween

Do you have a preteen or 'tween' kiddo in your home? Moms and dads who are looking for tips on parenting this age of child often do so because their tween is moving through rough times.

And when your tween is unhappy, everyone in your family is unhappy. Right?

Let's take a look at some important ideas on working with the tween in your family.

- Expect the roller coaster.

Tweens are often dealing with emotional ups and downs. Their lack of experience handling these emotional challenges means that whatever they may be feeling initially, their moods often collapse into anger, frustration or sadness.

This scenario is often followed by moments of sheer joy. Then the ride begins all over again.

Just knowing about this emotional roller coaster and actually expecting it to some degree can help take the sting out of it. Your tween will appreciate your ability to stay emotionally calm when she is feeling out of control.

- Negotiating Change.

Tweens are pushing their boundaries and parents often are caught between holding on to old rules and letting everything go and freedom reign.

Truthfully, the sweet spot is in the middle, creating new boundaries that both respect a tween's growing sense of independence and yet strongly incorporate a family's values.

And don't fall for the "everyone's doing it" trap. You are raising your child. Do you love him enough to do that with excellence? Then it doesn't matter what anyone else is doing. You do the right thing with your child.

- Stay close.

Some tweens feel the need to pull back from their parents, both physically and emotionally. Other kids never get that urge.

Either way the answer remains the same. Stay close in all ways at all times. Think in terms of being their coach, mentor and cheerleader. Listen, hug, then listen and hug some more. Be patient. Learn about the world in which they live - and be sure to put appropriate boundaries on that world.

Yes, you will have to deal with some common issues such as how to stop back talking, but when you have an excellent foundation built with your child, you will weather these challenges just fine.

Family game night, Saturday morning breakfast with mom or dad, reading favorite books together, sharing a beloved hobby and inviting their friends over to make dinner together are all good examples of activities designed to grow your relationship and keep close to your tween.

Tween tips on parenting always start with the notion of creating a stable and secure homelife where a child can safely land when the winds of growing up get a little too bumpy. Being in a fascinating season of life, these kids need a life coach who deeply cares about them and can help them make a successful transition into the teen years.

That coach is you, Mom or Dad!


Street Talk

  

Thanks, Susan, parenting is exciting, isn't it? Something new everyday!

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  about 1 decade ago

Thank you for this article. I have a 9 year old who I could swear on most days is a 12 year old. He is the oldest out of my three children. Some days he can be ever so helpful with his younger sisters, but other days are sometimes a struggle. Like you said in your article, some rules and boundaries have to change as they get older. He is a wonderful little boy, it's just hard letting go of those days when he was younger. Thank you for your advice and encouragement.

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  about 1 decade ago
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