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Dealing With The Unrealistic Expectations Of Others
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Dealing With the Unrealistic Expectations Of Others

Have there been times in your life when you’ve found yourself dealing with the unrealistic expectations of others? Well if you have – spare a thought for some of the men and women currently competing in the London Olympics.

With the 2012 Olympics now in full swing the main talking point in the UK (besides the empty seat controversy) is inevitably about ‘expectations’ of our team. Each day on the BBC the various commentators have been building up the chances of individual members of Team GB, filling the viewers with expectations of seeing our sportsmen and women on the winning podium, only for those expectations to be crushed.

Poor Mark Cavendish . He has set the tone for what so far, despite the success of Lizzie Armistead (silver), Rebecca Addlington (bronze) , the men’s gymnastics team (bronze) the GB Equestiran team has been a mediocre start from the British team as a whole. Part of me feels rather sorry for them. Cavendish was a real medal hope but some of the people the commentators have talked up, were unlikely to ever shine against superior opposition and had to rely on improving their own PBs (Personal Bests) and enjoy the pleasure of taking part. Dealing with their own expectations must be hard enough but dealing with the unrealistic expectations of others even more so.

Of course there’s nothing wrong in the press and the country wanting to get behind our competitors Nor is there anything wrong in having high expectations of people. After all thanks to Lottery funding, a lot of team members are receiving more financial and coaching support than ever before. However, those expectations should still be realistic. The competitors have enough pressure without all the external pressure. Hopefully they’re not listening to the news and they’re only listening to the people who are fully supportive of their efforts.

You may never be in contention for a sporting medal but you will inevitably experience times when you’ll have to deal with the unrealistic expectations whether at work or at home. Here are 4 tips for dealing with this.

Don’t underplay your chances: Although this may seem like a good option, it can actually affect your self esteem as you're not actually being honest. If you constantly underplay your chances of success nd then exceed expectations people will stop believing you. Remember the people who always said they’d done badly in exams and then came out top? Very irritating.

Don’t overplay your chances: Stretch yourself, expect a lot of yourself but don’t waste time overplaying your chances of success to other people. You will end up feeling stupid and they may well feel let down.

Back up your chances with facts: If people are pressuring you with unrealistic expectations, be upbeat and enthusiastic but if possible present them with some facts to back up your stance, tell them about your goals and expections and set a more realistic picture.

Shut out excess noise: Sometimes you have no choice but to ignore what other people are saying. After all you can change your behaviour, but you can’t change the behaviour of others. Shut out excess noise from other people by ignoring their unrealistic expectations and concentrate on what you have to do to be successful in different areas of your life.

Summary

Managing other people’s unrealistic expectations can be challenging. If possible help others to keep a sense of perspective but if necessary shut out distractions and excess noise and concentrate on yourself and what you have to do. Don’t underplay or overplay your chances of success, but be prepared to stretch yourself and exceed your own expectations.


Street Talk

Great advice I can use.

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  about 1 decade ago
  

Thanks Shawn

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  about 1 decade ago

Spot on - the pressure of just being at the Olympics must be enough never mind the additional pressure of the media talking them up. I feel sorry for them also because all that work over many many years is tested in a few minutes, and if pressure causes performance to not peak then that is very sad. Thanks for sharing Keith

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  about 1 decade ago
  

Thanks Keith - glad you enjoyed it. Yes sometimes I just wish the media would keep quiet but they are probably dammed if they do and dammed if they don't.

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  about 1 decade ago

Good advice. Thanks for sharing. Unrealistic expectations can be a problem. As well as underplaying! Facts about your performance are helpful to remember. Great article with timely topic... thank you!

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  about 1 decade ago
  

Thanks Cynthia. Glad you enjoyed it.

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  about 1 decade ago

Setting realistic goals and sticking to them despite others' expectations is important. I like that you remind people to be prepared to stretch yourself and be ready to exceed expectations. Nice article

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  about 1 decade ago
  

Thanks Jay. I do think it is important for people to stretch themselves. If you always sit in your comfort zone, it's not a good place to be.

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  about 1 decade ago
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