Forgiveness is a two way street. You should forgive others as well as yourself. I truly believe that if you do not forgive those who have hurt you, as well as forgive yourself, you will not receive eternal life. If you believe in that. Anyone can say that they forgive you, but you have to really mean what you say and understand that even though you are forgiven or you forgive someone that you don't have to forget. At least not right away.

When someone hurts you there may be several different reasons why. No matter what the reason never accept being treated poorly by anyone. It is your decision whether you forgive them or not but don't hold it against them if they are forgiven by you. Move forward and put it behind you but be careful to not let it happen again.

Make sure they understand, if you choose, that their being forgiven has conditions and that if this happens again you may not be so willing to forgive them. As I stated earlier don't hold it over their head or make them feel bad or guilty for what happen.

There may be some things you feel like you can't forgive someone for. At some point for yourself you have to come to terms with what has happen and find it within yourself to forgive them, whether you tell them or not is up to you. Holding a grudge against someone is never healthy for you and keeps you from moving forward with your life.

Now you may not forget what has happen right away, but over time you will learn how to put it behind you, but be cautious of others or the same person doing the same to you. Some things will be harder to forget then others but either way over time for yourself you must find a way to let it go and move on.

The same rules apply to you if you were the one who did the wrong, but you can't expect the other person to just forgive you and move on or go on the way things were before, no matter how sorry you may be for what you did. You can never expect someone to forgive you right away that takes time and rebuilding trust as well.

Hurting another person or being hurt are difficult emotions to get over and deal with, you and the other person may go your separate ways, but try your best not to carry these hurt feelings into another relationship because it has nothing to do with that person nor do they deserve the same treatment.