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Hate Is By Choice
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I am truly astonished and amazed by all the hate in the world. Well truthfully I am not but it really is a wonder to me how so many people can go around with so much hate in their hearts. What makes you hate someone or something so much? Well I have defiantly been there. I have had my own share of hate to pass around. But now that I have gotten past that and really looked at the situation I realize that once I was hurt or mistreated and those feelings of hate and contempt came into my heart I should have removed myself from the situation. I was damaging myself as well as the other person by continuing the relationship.

Once you are hurt and those hateful feelings start coming the resentment makes you do and say things that are unfair and that should just be left alone. It always seems to just be instinct to want to get back at someone. Well the way I see it if they truly cared about you they would not hurt or mistreat you in the first place. So if they don't care about you then why waste time trying to get even or hurt them. The point is you probably can't hurt them because whatever the reason they just don't care. It takes just as much thought and energy to hate someone as it does to love them. Maybe more!

You are thinking about them either way, hate, love, they are both emotions. Why would you give someone who has hurt you or mistreated you the satisfaction of any emotion from you. The hardest emotion, and I believe it is one, to come to is indifference. When you are indifferent you don't care either way about the person. This can take a long while to get to this point. Trust me it has taken me to many years to count (well about 3) to get to the point of indifference. It feels good. I have no ill will towards the person. I just don't have (or have as little as possible) anything to do with that person anymore.

When someone hurts us we tend to look at ourselves and what we did wrong. We believe what the person tells us (the one who supposedly loves us). When in reality we should look at the situation and think what may be going on with that person. Why are they putting this (whatever it may be) on me? We fall into that self-doubt trap so easily sometimes.

There will never stop being hate or hateful people in the world. You have a choice in either falling victim to it and becoming one of them or learning how to overcome it and becoming indifferent to the effects of hate in your life.


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