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How Radically Your Life Can Change? Could There Be Another Chance When You Lose Everything?
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First of all, you never lose everything. You can lose a part of what had been your life before; let’s say you lost the house you lived in, or a marriage, or a relationship, or someone loved, or a big amount of money, or a promotion, or a job, or an exam… You feel like you lost everything, like your life finished there. You feel so broken-down that you attract more unpleasant circumstances in your life and you start to see yourself a victim. Noting is happening by chance in your life. Everything we live has a meaning. Contrast comes sometimes in our life to help us finding out why we are living for.

But what someone being in such a dramatic situation can do?

First of all, let all the bad feelings go out. Don’t keep them inside. Cry, scream, and say all the words you feel like to say, complain about what a miserable victim you are (however, try to avoid someone watching you doing that…). At the end, you will feel released. Now is the moment to evaluate the things. The things are as they are, but the life must go on. Ask yourself what can be done to get things better? Try to find there an opportunity. People use to say: ‘When God is closing a door, He opens a window’. Try to find this window; it can lead you in a new territory which might be better than those in which you had been.

The following advice is very hard to digest, I know: be grateful for everything (how can you be grateful when you are bankrupt?!...). You are right, but let’s think a little bit. Suppose you had a quite good job which brought you a quite good salary. You paid installments to the bank for your house and for credit cards and barely afford other expenses (kindergarten or school taxes, holidays, other family needs). Your own pleasures didn’t matter anymore. You lived for your loved ones and thought they should have been grateful for that. But they didn’t because they wanted all the time more… Now, when you lost your job, you cannot offer them not even what you had given them before. You feel guilty, unhappy, and miserable. The bank will come to take your house; you cannot cover the debts and ask yourself how you will pay the taxes for children school. Another job is difficult to get, at least in a short time, and you need it badly to get your old life back.

May I ask you: why to be sorry for this life?

I repeat my advice: be grateful for everything you are living now! You have your family and you love all of them. You and your loved ones are healthy. You are still young enough to begin a new life, you have a good education, you are skilled, and you can work. The life is offering you a new chance. You have the opportunity to begin a new life, better then the life you had lived before you lost your job. Why not?

Stop seeing you as victim, stop complaining and look to a new future. Imagine how it could be. Remember your passions, what you like to do, re-design you life. In two years’ time, looking back you will probably say: thanks God I lost my job, otherwise I would have never discovered this good life I’m living now!

Anytime you don’t feel good in a situation something will happen to offer you a chance to get you on the right track. Any compromise in your life will finish like this. A marriage in which you stay without feeling happy, a relationship that you still keep even if you feel it is not for you, a job you don’t like.

But this will never happen when you follow your bliss. When you are passionate about what you are doing, when you are in the appropriate relationship, you will see the universe helping you. Even if you face difficulties, you will overpass them and reach your goal.

Take responsibility of your life because your life is only yours and look for opportunities to discover your purpose, discover why you are here. Be honest with yourself and always follow your bliss.


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