This Article is About
mixed emotions
wise person
adult life
light switch
worries
dread
long time
sleep
The Mind – A Mine Field Of Mixed Emotions
Join 1000's of Authors at StreetArticles Today!

The Mind – A Mine Field Of Mixed Emotions

How about that worrying feeling?

The sun sets, the darkness encroaches, the time of worry draws nigh, the mind of some prepare for the dangers, that manifest themselves with the night. The darkness is a time of dread, insomniacs prepare for a night of worries. What is it about the night that brings all the worries of tomorrow, that never happen?

A wise person said, and I quote “Today, is the tomorrow, we worried about yesterday” the author is unknown. But is it not the writing of a wise one? How many have told me that they cannot sleep at night because of the worry of what is going to happen tomorrow. Is this a deep-rooted fear of the dark, manifesting itself as worries in adult life. Why do some panic about what they have little control over?

I know I am a worrier, and when the lights go out, the worries of the world visit me. “at the meeting tomorrow is ….. going to happen? How am I going to handle the situation?” “the wife sees the Oncologist tomorrow, I'm sure they are going to find..... how will we handle the extra cost?” These are the type of concerns that I will wrestle with deep into the night. What happens the next day? All the worries and predictions of the night before, never come about, don't I now feel an idiot. When my wife, diagnosed with cancer the first time, the nightly worry when the lights went out, she was going to die. Put the light back on, the worry went away, light off, back it came. I spent the night with the light switch in my hand till sleep finally relieved me of the worry. This went on for a long time, till the wife and I discussed it, once my fear was out, and she assured me she had no intentions of passing on, I never had the worry again. But why was it forgotten, once I had spoken about the fear?

I have often wondered if this comes from a past fear of the dark? As a child I was scared of the night. My father at an early stage of my life, cured me of it, he sent me on an errand to a neighbour. He had told me that there was nothing to fear, except fear itself, and to prove it, he was sending me to the neighbour to collect a box for him. You did not refuse my Dad's instructions, and I went. The neighbour was 500 metres away, so it was a long walk for a little guy without a torch, only the moon light. He told me in later life, he was not far behind me all the way there and back. Nothing happened and I, cured of the phobia for life.

Why then do we worry at night when it is dark? Is the mind unwilling to sleep? Is it a common phobia, the worry phobia? Is there a cure-all for this? I can hardly go for a walk in the dark, although believe it or not I do, this will not make any difference to the mind.

I try telling myself I'm being a fool, but on some occasions I don't, or won't, listen to myself, then I follow Dale Carnegie's recommendation, he said, and I quote “If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep.

I cannot speak for others, but I find if I get out of bed, make a cup of tea, and verbally curse my stupidity, not in the mind, but out loud, I can on occasions cure myself. If that does not work, I write articles deep into the night.


Street Talk

This is really powerful, Rob. So often we don't get restful sleep. I was told long ago that if you cannot sleep, God is trying to get your attention. Whatever you call your higher power or deepest self, it won't let you rest if something is not right and the quiet hours are the ideal time to confront it.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

I am sure he is attracting my attention, I talk to him often, finding out what's wrong is the difficult part.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

I enjoyed your article, Rob. Unfortunately, getting up in the middle of the night doesn't always work for me. I have a theory about worrying at night. I think of all the things I didn't do today and I give myself a big list of what needs to be done tomorrow. One of my antidotes is to remind myself of things going well and good things I did during the day while I am getting ready to sleep.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Thanks for the comment Sarah, I have not had a chance to look at an article or two of yours yet but I will, I have joined your Tribe.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago
AJ  

As always, great article Rob. Do you have a coping mechanism for your late night worrying? As you said, when you finally spoke with your wife about your fear, the worrying went away. You faced your issue head on and the anxiety dissolved. When it's late at night, my mind gets away from me, and I cannot "face" the fear due to time of day, I play solitaire. I find that my mind becomes occupied with the cards and stops thinking about the things I worry about. Then, I can finally fall asleep. If that doesn't work, I take a melatonin which is another non addicting herbal medicine to aid in sleeping.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

I read to go to sleep AJ, if I can put down the book fast enough, and switch off the light I'm gone for the night. If I'm too slow, I may as well get up and write or watch TV, but read what I wrote in reply to Heather, I lack a real reason for my worries and difficult to find a coping mechanism if the worry is almost groundless. But your article gave me a lot to think about. Thanks.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

A very good article Rob. I do think you writing articles deep into the night is more beneficial (to us all) than verbally abusing yourself. I won't tolerate anyone talking about my friends like that! Have you ever considered dwelling on the" successful completion" of the thing you're worrying about? Operative word being "successful". You obviously have a very agile and creative mind... why not put it to good use! Hope you have a bothersome night again though... can't wait to see what you've written about for tomorrow. On with the kettle!! ;-)

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Thanks Heather, a short amount of research and a lot of thought, finds me worrying about nothing of any importance. this is what bothers me, is my mind over active? unable to switch off? I sometimes feel so like Cecil John Rhodes and his saying "So much to do, and so little time to do it." I have ambitions that are probably impossible to reach, yet I will continue to plan to reach them, probably not a bad thing. But I wonder if this is not what keeps me awake, the possible stumbling blocks I manifest in my mind, that will again probably never happen. Crazy mixed up me, a psychiatrists would book me in the funny farm. I don't let it get me down, it more angers me, the stupidity of it all. I have a sense of humour that keeps me going.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

A sense of humour is the greatest antidote for life's problems! Stay away from psychiatrists! You're perfect the way you are without them screwing with you... and as for me, I'd be burnt at the stake. What a pair!! Practically - the best aid to sleeping when your mind needs calming is a homeopathic remedy called Passiflora. I swear by it (in case you haven't gathered already sometimes my mind gets going too!!), my husband now asks for me to pass it over some dark nights when work is on his mind, and my kids will wander out when their little minds are playing scary stories of things that go bump in the night and ask for it. Amazing stuff and very safe and natural. More to research! Hmmm... another article - the power of homeopathy! lol

  
  about 1 decade ago

Great article Rob, I totally agree my man!. Its like you have to be on guard against your own mind. Lets not forget about EGO, this is really great information. Yes, i also agree about that worry gets you no where. Thank you

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Thanks William, a mine field for a mind, needs an engineer to clear.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Wow, Rob, your article is really powerful; I felt those worries that can plague me even when they are totally illogical.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Thanks Sherry, The amount of times I worry about the smallest of things, that never happen, could kick myself.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago
Stacydee  

I love the way your dad cured your fear when you were a kid. That's quality parenting, love it. The image is great as well!

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Thanks again Stacydee, he was a small but powerful man, with a heart of gold, who taught me so much, without me ever attributing the lessons to him.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

Great article. I know I have problems sleeping at night sometime and get up and walk around for a little bit.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago

How we all differ, yet in a way, are so alike.

Reply
  about 1 decade ago
You May Also Like
How to Get Back Your Ex Boyfriend
If you have just suffered from a breakup, you are probably feeling hurt, angry and confused. However amidst all the mixed emotions you are feeling right now, you are still eager to find ways on how to get back your ex. Most of the time, people around you will tell…
By: John Jarvis in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Dec 28, 2011  
0
  Likes: 0

I Have Mixed Feelings Now That Ive Dumped My Boyfriend – Is This Normal?
It's perfectly normal to have mixed feelings after you've broken up with your boyfriend. In some cases, it takes breaking up to realize just how good things were. Once the high emotions die down you realize that you really do love him. Absence, after all, really does make the heart…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Apr 09, 2011  
0
  Likes: 2

Dealing With Change In Pregnancy
Pregnancy is synonymous with change. The physiological change in pregnancy become evident quickly, the emotional and psychological changes less so.  This article will look at the role of parents in dealing with some of these changes and suggest how best to handle the challenges that lie ahead. The news of…
By: KCee in  Home and Family  >  Pregnancy   Mar 12, 2011  
0
  Likes: 0

Life's Important Rules
A wise person has said that there are seven cardinal rules in life. The first one is to make peace with your past, so that dealing with your past doesn’t spoil your present life. It’s a good rule, the past cannot be changed. But it can be relegated to its…
By: Kathy Manis Findley in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Sep 03, 2013  
0
  Likes: 1

Seniors And Internet Marketing
Seniors and Internet Marketing is a growing phenomenon in today’s economy. More and more seniors are finding that there is too much month left at the end of the money, therefore more and more seniors are looking for ways to supplement their incomes. Many are turning to the Internet in…
By: Peter Parks in  Internet and Businesses Online   Mar 24, 2011  
8
  Likes: 0

Donations to Research And “save The” - Collections Making Money for All Except
Are your donations going to the propounded recipient? An article, to which I have added a link on this article, had my blood a boil when I read it. The fact that not all money donated to a worthy cause reaches the very establishment for which it collected. Enrichment of…
By:  in  News and Society  >  Pure Opinion   Apr 19, 2012  
29
  Likes: 9

Ken Wilber & Integral Philsophy
Ken Wilber & His Philosophy by Miriam Pia Ken Wilber is one of the dominant and ‘game changing’ American philosophers of the late 20th and early 21st centuries. His work broke with the status quo of academic philosophies of both the West and the East. Because of that, his work,…
By: Miriam Pia in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Jun 04, 2016  
1
  Likes: 1

Procrastination And Time Mangement Tips
I may have very well been the best procrastinator in the world at one point in time in my life. It was always the question of now vs later. I would always be the kind of guy that would say "heck I'll just do it later. Later would turn into…
By: Brad J in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   May 17, 2016  
0
  Likes: 0

Taking out the trash - Eliminate the negative in your life
There comes a time in all our life's when it's time to do a bit of house cleaning. I mean some deep down elbow grease, on your hands and knees, sweating it out. They say we are what we eat. Well I truly believe we also are who we hang…
By: fudgey in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   May 13, 2016  
0
  Likes: 0

6 Causes Of Procrastination Among Online Entrepreneurs
I wish I could say that at this point in life, I have conquered procrastination. I have made progress, but there are days when my motivation is low, and I can find a whole lot of things I want to do, except what's on my to-do list. How about you?…
By: Juan Rademacher in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Apr 29, 2016  
3
  Likes: 2

Compassion And Bonds In Music
Music, in substantial part made by Hellish people, is not entirely okay, meaning that its influence upon the subconsciousness of listeners is not too good. And before I say some details about it, as usually I have to point out that Hellish people adapt to what I write about them…
By: Pavel Kastl in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Apr 04, 2016  
0
  Likes: 0

Understanding Trust
We all possess some level of this important emotion already. Even if there are trust issues currently in your life there are certain things that you can continue to trust. You trust that the sun will rise in the morning, you trust that the traffic will stay on the other…
By: Gemma Bailey in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Mar 29, 2016  
1
  Likes: 0

Letting Go
Sometimes us human beings are so shaped and influenced by our will and desire to succeed and make good of every situation that life throws at us, we forget that there is a real reward and skill in letting go and moving on. It’s as if letting go and moving…
By: Gemma Bailey in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Mar 14, 2016  
0
  Likes: 0

Manage Your Time, Time Your Manage
Manage your time They say time is fleeting, and that time flies. It seemed like just yesterday I had all the time in the world, . Time is a gift that is given to all of us. We all have, for the most part, a good measure of time to…
By: Paul Andresen in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Mar 10, 2016  
1
  Likes: 0

Why People Believe In Soul's Transmigration
Do you know that southern European Christians believed in transmigration until the Council of Nice banned such beliefs in 553 A. D? Have you ever heard that Drupe sect from Lebanon entertains a notion of a succession of lives with improvement in each?Are you introduced with the statistics which show…
By: georgechantibet in  Self Improvement  >  Personal Growth   Mar 07, 2016  
0
  Likes: 0

Article Views: 2124    Report this Article