Our perception of crises is negative despite they always have happy ending. It is true that crises always bring a lot of unpleasant things with them, but finally, when everything calms down the good outcomes become evident. Every cloud has its silver lining.

We can talk here not only about political, economical, social crises, but also about family and personal crises as well.

Usually, crises arise after an accumulation of tension manifested under different forms.

In political and social environment we see conflicts between people and groups of people; inflation, over-production and bubbles put pressure on the economic system and lead to the economy’s overheating resulting further in malfunctions manifested through recessions; on family and relationship level we encounter conflicts between friends, parents and children, spouses; personal crises usually reflects inner conflicts between our aspiration and the reality we are living in.

Crises never come unexpected. Always there are signs announcing the imminence of them. But in general we don’t pay attention willing to believe that everything is ok. When we refer to the political, economic or social scale, there are different interests involved in predicting them. This is another issue.

I want to talk about personal crises.

Whenever there is a lasting contradiction between what we would like to do and what we are doing, the crises are inevitable. We feel that we are going in the wrong direction, our guts tell us, but we don’t want to pay attention, we simply don’t want to think about it. The same thing happens when we are in a wrong relationship. But every compromise leads inevitable to crisis.

That’s why crises are good for our personal growth. They don’t let us to stay in the wrong place. God gives us a sign that something needs to be changed in our life and, more than that, He put us in the situation to make a new choice, to leave the old place for a new one. Even if for the moment the situation we are in was good for us (coming after a worse one), it is again the time to change, to evolve.

Tension accumulates until it erupts. The things become unbearable and this is the moment when we know that the time for change is coming. Even if we like it or not.

If the crisis don’t trigger directly from our inner conflict, there is an external element which provokes the crisis situation. Can be a dismissal, a relationship broken by the other part, an accident, which destroys the present ‘balance’ and put us in the situation to take new decisions, to make changes in our life.

Nothing happens by chance in our life. All these events are leading to change in our thinking, in our behavior, in what we are doing and, finally, in our results.

It happen us often to keep something in our life just because we are use to it: a job we don’t like, a bad relationship, bad habits such as smoking or drinking, or even our attitude in life. We tend to maintain the comfort we are in. We know it might not be ok for us, we realize that it would be a good idea to change things, but we postpone the moment of change just because we prefer now to stay quiet then to embark in an disturbing effort to change. We feel more secure keeping a bad situation than taking risky decisions for a better one.

But life pushes us further. That’s the way world evolves. Stable systems exist only on short term. They are then shaken by crises to find a new balance state for another short term and so on…

What we should do?

We need to get used with the idea of permanent move and expect all the time changes in our lives. In this way we will not be taken by surprise by crises, we will understand the process and will go through it knowingly and following clear goals.

Stable state in life means stop evolution, stagnation. Or, we are here to evolve, everything around us goes on and we cannot be an exception.

Evolution means permanent change for the better.