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Everyone has ‘stuff’. I mean the emotional type. Be it bothersome or not it’s usually stored away in some recess of our mind and body.
It’s good for the occasional dusting off, examining and, although we think we’ve “dealt with it”, we stick it back in the cupboard of our life until the next stock take.
Some of this stuff brings back unpleasant memories and we’re apt to dump something else on top of it in an attempt to mask that it’s even there. We either aren’t equipped to deal with the negative feelings or think it validates ourselves to hold onto the emotion.
Perhaps we’ve never thought about it either way. Life just “is” and some things are bad memories!
These events in our life are important.
They’re the reference points of who we are and what has guided our lives to where we’re at in this moment. They’re valuable and form a big part of our identity. They should guide us safely away from repeating the same experience type again…and again.
Sadly, when we don’t learn from these reference points (and I’m talking on an unconscious level here) our life will loop back through similar emotional experiences while the unconscious mind seeks validation, conscious learning and release from what is hindering body wholeness.
What isn’t so valuable about these events are the emotions that cling to them. Hanging on to emotions, such as anger, sadness, fear, guilt and hurt, make us feel negatively and put stress on the physical health of our bodies.
The emotions are stored at a cellular level and interfere with the neurological connections within us causing glitches in our otherwise finely tuned and dynamic being.
The Gestalt.
Our emotions are stored unconsciously on a ‘gestalt’. I liken this to a pearl necklace. Each pearl represents an event that holds a like emotion. We have a gestalt for each separate emotion. One for anger, one for sadness and so on.
The best way of releasing these negative emotions, in my experience, is to use a time line based therapy that allows our unconscious mind to consciously take us back to the moment before the first event of any given type occurred. Having a reference point, the unconscious mind can present a ‘learning’ or new way of thinking (a different possible outcome if you like). As the emotion drains away from that original event it’s like the pearls on the necklace being loosened to all slip off the strand on every event along the gestalt.
The emotional ‘charge’ is released from each event. It can take moments or minutes at best.
The memory remains intact. Instead, the outcome is an understanding of why this emotion was triggered and how we could have had a different outcome on subsequent events all the way into our future until now… and in fact, beyond.
How is this practically achieved?
For those interested the technique I was trained in is called Time Line Therapy ®. I appreciate the power and amazing propensity for change inherent in this technique. I don’t feel it’s safe or ecological to share the details of this therapy outside of a session with a trained practitioner. There is a lot to be found online though for the curious.
There are many roads, however, that lead to wholeness and wellness. All therapy should encompass both these things and leave the individual with more options in life than they previously had.
It really depends on what is available and what a person feels comfortable with at any given time.
I believe that the right opportunity will arise at the right moment. There is no single right way and experiencing what’s on offer is not a marriage contract.
Many different books and people have helped me. Each has had their time and place.
To use the words of a very wise man; “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”.
really really great article... yes I also do believe our sub conscious hold the key to our conscious self... a question... does time line therapy include meditation or Yoga...?? really really love this article... :)
AJ it's the simplest thing on earth however I hesitate based on the 'stuff' people are dealing with, the potential for problems if it was not used correctly and the times it takes a practitioner to guide an unconscious mind to actually let go of 'stuff' it is holding to gain positive benefits in a negative way. Time Line Therapy is trademarked however so you should be able to find a fair bit about it and I'm happy to answer questions as they arise. Trying to organise FB at the moment but having issues with Pages so I can communicate with people less publicly (ironically! lol)
Thanks A14256! Hope you can stop by often. It's an entertaining ride over this way! ;-) Having fun sharing stuff!
You're absolutely right C4men. Emotions in the present serve us very well (for example if you're having your boundaries violated you need to express anger) but stored emotions have no useful or edifying value! I know it sounds idealistic but with certain releasing techniques it can me very practical in promoting wholeness and wellness. It's hard to explain where I'm coming from in only 400 words! Thanks for reading and understanding.
Great article Heather, I agree that its a must to release that negative thoughts going through our mind. Thanks the kind of stuff that eat our lunch and allow us to make bad choices. Thank you
Cool article, Heather. An awful lot of people carry around negative emotional baggage. I think this is a major cause of stress. It's not the little day to day things that cause the stress - it's what's lying deep inside that is given no release. Little things can cause someone to over-react to the "little thing" in such an intensely emotional way (anger, sadness, etc.) that you just know there's some psyche disturbance beneath the surface. Couldn't find you on FB - I tried exactly what you said and there are many without the "Writes" - try me at AnnMarie Escher.
I agree with you totally AnnMarie. Sometimes it amazes me to see people act out over little things and I realise that there is usually more to the story that doesn't involve the issue at hand. I'm still new to having a FB page. I wonder if it should have spaces or no spaces? Will have to figure this out. And in the meantime I'll look for you on the dark side... lol
Shoo another deep stimulating article. Research will be done as will questions. The pearl necklace analogy worries me, mine must be long and the knots tight. The worrying thing about internet research is you are not always sure what to believe. Good article Heather, do you never sleep in your country?
Many pearls are surely the sign of great wealth. Our wonderful life experience can never be undervalued. The knots? Not even there. The amazing thing about change at an UC level is that when it happens it happens in an instant. Will admit I'm feeling a little rough this morning, Rob.
You need to sleep, and this time I got in the last word. I followed your article with a little Internet research, and now past midnight here, but still at it. inspired me to write an article on the mind I'm sure when you have time you will read it, I look forward to the comment.
Rob, did you write this article and did I read it? I was just looking but couldn't find it?!
Heather you wrote it and I read it, and it made me write an article which you then read.
Hmmm... many articles under the proverbial bridge, obviously! Would have found yours again if you weren't so prolific! ;-)
Believe it or not I went looking for it but between 154 articles I gave up quickly, when I find it I will send the link by message.
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