Who wouldn’t want a positive attitude?

One would think that everyone would like to feel happy, feel self-confident, feel empowered, feel motivated, feel secure, feel loving, feel positive anticipation.

One would THINK that everyone would like to feel positive, but why is it that so many people suffer with a negative attitude.

It is in part because they “argue for darkness”.

People “argue for darkness” when they insist that feeling good is being too optimistic.

They argue that it is selfish to feel wonderful when so many people are going through such terrible injustices.

They argue that they have “a right” to feel angry, to feel resentful, to feel let down, to feel bitter.

The hold fast to the opinion that if they cannot feel forgiveness toward someone, it is not themselves they need to change!

They even worry that feeling grateful will make the feel less motivated to succeed.

But there are those of us who would like to feel happier, to feel more confident, to feel more loving, to feel more joyful, grateful and optimistic.

One way of improving your attitude is to regard your current attitude as entirely your choice.

You can make excuses for a negative outlook on life, you can come up with all sorts of reasons to feel downhearted, feel used, feel used up and to feel out of luck.

But in the end, how you feel about yourself, your life and the people in your life is really up to you.

So once you decide that you are tired of living under pressure, feeling anxious, feeling burdened, feeling stress and strain, feeling stuck, or just feeling unhappy, here is your first step:

Make NO excuses for how you are feeling.

When you feel up, try not to think or say that you are feeling up because something you like is happening.

When you are feeling down, try not to think or say that you are feeling down because of any event, person or situation.

As I explained in one of my recent motivational speaker engagements: "Regard your emotional response or attitude as your way of RESPONDING on an emotional level to what you think is happening."

As you stop making excuses for how you feel, as you stop giving any reason at all for feeling up or down, you help yourself to see that how you feel about what is going on is really a choice.

Whatever your circumstances, it is obviously more practical to feel faith, to feel safe, to feel inspired than to feel low self-esteem, to feel unsure, to feel discouraged.

How you feel impacts what you do.

When you feel great, you have more energy to do more and to function at a higher level.

When you feel lousy, you feel too drained and feel too despondent to do much of anything, because it doesn’t seem that doing anything will do you any good.

So whether you are going through bright times or dark times, work on your attitude.

If you feel low, don’t make excuses.

If you are feeling high, don’t justify that by pointing out what seems to be working in your life.

Just examine how you feel and work on feeling better and better.

You will soon realize that you never really go through dark times or bright times, but rather the quality of your present time is a reflection of your current attitude.

When it appears that things are really not working out, it is just a negative attitude projecting excuses to feel bad.

When you look at life with a positive attitude, you expect things to work out, and they do work out.