Do you ever wonder how to deal with difficult people? There is no magic formula for dealing with rude people but my Mother's secret was simple,"kill them with kindness." She told me her secret when I was only 9 years old and I had no idea what she meant at the time. Now, I'm over 40 and I have a clear understanding what she said and how she dealt with people.

There are difficult people who come and go in our lives. Dealing with these people is stressful and sometimes problematic at times but it doesn't have to be if you control your emotions. If you manage your own feelings and think positively, you can disarm any difficult person with ease. No one has permission to ruin your day, but keep in mind, you CONTROL what you see and hear, and it is up to you how you spend the rest of your day. You can either dwell on these people's actions and become upset or deal with it and continue to have a great day.

Most people don't realize that when someone becomes difficult with you, they are imposing on your EGO, not your feelings!If you let your ego clash with someone else's, chances are you won't let the other person win! If you want to diffuse a situation in a positive way, you must let your pride down. "Take the high road" and be the "bigger person" by apologizing or letting the other person "save face" or by stopping what you're doing and smile. The latter will surprise and change the mood of even the most angriest person.

Kindness is usually given by genuinely humble people, not by egotistical people who have an ulterior motive. It is true that the actions of people will eventually reveal what type of person he or she is--manipulative or genuine.

My Mother was a master at diffusing angry people.Her kindness was derived from years of experience dealing with all types of people.Keep in mind, she used her kindness because she was truly a compassionate person. You cannot be genuinely good-natured until you make an effort to become a nice person.

Please, if you don't like people and don't like dealing with them, DON'T EVEN TRY THIS! You will appear disingenuous right away! So don't try it.

Dealing with difficult people isn't easy but diffusing them with a kind word or a kind act is much more skillful than ending a situation in an all-out argument.The trick is to leave these boorish people with the feeling that they lost the argument in the end. That takes cunning and skill.

But remember, being kind only works if you make a concerted effort to become nice to others.Being nice is usually a thankless affair and it should not be exerted if your only reason is to exchange for kindness in return, even if your ego would want it. There's no disputing the fact that genuine people who give lots of love and kindness to others, usually receive lots of love in return.

So make an effort to change yourself for the better and deal with these difficult people by "killing them with kindness." You'll be amazed how good you feel and how few of these rude people will exist in your life as the years go by.