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Wondering How to Be More Confident? Fake It!

Most people at some point in their life will have a crisis of confidence about something. Some work it out and take action to regain their confidence, whilst others spend a lot of time thinking about how to be more confident but don’t actually do anything about it. The problem when you suffer a loss of confidence, it won’t just come back without you taking some action. If it’s a lack of confidence you suffer from, it’s no different. In order to start building confidence you have to take some action, and the only person that can come from is you. Here are 5 things for you to consider

1. Face your fear

Whatever you want to gain more confidence in, you have to be prepared to face your fear. There is no other way. Try and think back to a time when you were frightened about something you had to do and then it turned out to be better than you thought. Remember that. The fact is that most times when we're afraid of something the reality is rarely as bad.

2. Take action

If you want to grow more confidence you actually have to stop thinking about it and take action. Only you can decide what you need to do, but accept that it will probably mean you have to move outside of your comfort zone. Once you have taken some action don’t stop because the only way you will grow more confident is by practice and constantly stretching yourself.

3. Tap in to your inner reserves

We all know that the human spirit is incredibly strong. People survive trauma and terrible circumstances far harder than they would ever have imagined they could by tapping into their inner reserves. Even if you’ve never experienced a disaster there will have been plenty of times when you’ve had to dig deep to get through something. So in order to grow your confidence draw on your past experience and tap into those inner reseves. You may even surprise yourself.

4. Expect success

One of the reasons that some people seem so confident is that they expect success. If you immediately start putting up barriers, saying “I can’t” or imagining that something will go wrong, you are going to fail before you’ve begun. This negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. So if you want to increase your confidence start out expecting that you will succeed.

5. Fake it!

Now this may seem a very strange piece of advice but it is something people do all the time. You may feel miserable but you don't want other people to know, so you smile and fake hapinness. Now you may still feel thoroughly unhappy inside, but if you continued to pretend you were happy, you'd eventually find there were times when you forgot about your misery and actually felt better. If you want to increase your confidence in any area of your life, you can’t wait until you get the feeling that you feel confident enough to have a go. The chances are you will have to have a go and ‘fake it’. And the more you do so one day, you’ll realise one day that you don't need to fake it at all. It'll be your new reality.


If you’re trying to increase your confidence, then you have to be prepared to face your fear and take action. It may not immediately feel real which is why you may have to ‘fake it’ for a bit. But that feeling won’t last forever, particularly if you expect success. In time, you will find that the confidence you crave will be real.

These are just five suggestions, but there are many more things you can do to increase your confidence. As with all my advice you have to find what works for youl. You can find more ideas on my website.

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