There are many disadvantages to the children of divorced parents. Sometimes two people just can not get along anymore and the children are not a good enough reason to stay together. Sometimes this causes even more damage to yourself, the other person, and the children.

There are times when very little thought is given to the children. Yes you may think about them but most of the time adults are so wrapped up in their own little world they forget about the toll it is taking on their children. Sometimes the children are used as pawns, a bargaining chip with one adult or the other. The most important thing to do is to ensure they have emotional and mental support not only from both parents but maybe outside of the family as well. It is very hard for a child to understand an adult relationship. It may take more then just the parents to help the child understand why they need to separate.

They may be angry or feel abandoned by the parent who leaves the house. Especially if they have not known there was any problems. Which in a way they should not know there were any problems. We as adults tend to forget that our children see, hear and want to know everything we do. Whether we pay attention or not they know when we are upset, no matter how hard we try to hide it.

No matter how we try to make the situation easier for our children there may be issues that arise that we have no idea how to handle. there may be times when seeking professional advice may be the only and best option. It never is a sign of failure if you seek professional help. You and your children may greatly benefit from this. It may even come a time that as a family you participate in therapy. Even though you are no longer together you are still a family just one that can not function together.

At the end of a relationship their will be hard feelings, and you will be hurt but for you children to make it through this tough time you have to put those to the side or deal with them when they are elsewhere. It never makes you look like the better (or Bigger) person when you bad mouth the other parent to them. You can't make everything perfect or right in this situation, you can keep from making it worse, but there are many things you can do to make it easier for you, your spouse, and your children. Are you the bigger person?