You've just broken up with her and you have no idea what to do to get her back - and to make matters worse, she's seeing someone else. If this sounds like you, read on to discover what you should do when faced with your girlfriend seeing someone else after a breakup.
My ex girlfriend says she still loves me, but she's with another guy.
Often, women (and men) will jump into a new relationship right after breaking up with someone because they fear being alone.
It is not some kind of magical, pure love that makes your ex suddenly fall for some guy; it's that he's meeting certain needs for her that you weren't.
Dating another guy after breaking up with you is called a "rebound" relationship. It is known as such because people feel out of control after a breakup, so they need someone there to catch them as they fall - thus "rebound".
I want her back, and she knows it.
Unfortunately, telling your girl how much you want her back will usually make her go further away from you.
She's taking your attention for granted, and figures that she has your love and attention no matter what.
However, knowing this, you can quickly SHIFT the locus of power in your relationship. By withdrawing your attention from her suddenly, she will unconsciously take an interest in you - and it will be very powerful.
Just watch. Try not talking to her or texting her for a couple days. See if she's not starting to contact you and wonder what's going on with you.
What can I do to feel better... and get her back?
The first thing you can do right after a breakup to start feeling better is to get control of your emotions. Recognize that right now, you are feeling crazy and out of control. And you don't know completely what's going to happen with your ex, but you need to tell yourself this one thing:
No matter what happens with my ex girlfriend, I will be happy again, and I will find new love.
Right now your life feels crazy, but it will get better - I promise.
So how can you get her back? You need to first understand her psychology so that you can figure out how to take control of the relationship again. Things are not as final as we often make them out to be, and this includes relationships.
Don't fear that you'll never find love again, or that things with your ex are permanently over. In reality, you can get her back if you truly work a plan of action to take back control of the relationship. But it's largely dependent on how well you can get your emotions under control, so you should make that your primary focus.
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